(Closed) For those who already had their engagement session…

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Our photographer took charge since we were pretty unsure of what to do.. In a way I wish I would have taken charge more and got some more unique poses.  I kind of have engagment picture regret 🙁

Post # 4
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We were very photo awkward too. My photographer was awesome.  She did take charge and position us. She moved our shoulders and our chins, for example (I guess we tensed those up a bit). We brought lots of props so our photoshoot would be more unique–like strawberries, a blanket, chalk etc… That helped make our photos (and taking the photos) more fun and more relaxed–I would definitely suggest that. 

And, if drinking a beer helps, I would drink beer (!) because the photos will definitely turn out better if you are relaxed and happy.  


Post # 5
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sheepandbear:  ours had a photojournalistic style so he followed us around a summer fair in the city. We told him we did want some posed shots so he helped pose us, gave us tips on how to hold our heads, and showed us some of the shots on his camera to make sure we liked them. He was awesome. It’s so important you feel comfortable around them because s/he will be your shadow on your big day! 

Post # 6
1598 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are not very photogenic people either so I was nervous too!

But our photographer was awesome! She and her partner were totally down to earth, helpful, and friendly.

The 2 of them collaborated on ideas of where to pose, how to pose, etc. She gave us suggestions of where to stand or sit and let us know if we were being to cheesy or slouching or if we needed to angle our heads/bodies a certain way. These are things that any good photographer should do (not being snobby — I got my photographer at a bargain price and she did all of this — and my aunt is a former photographer so she told me what to look for).

She did mention if my hair was messy because of the wind and also pointed out if my fiance’s (bright blue ….. don’t ask lol) undershirt was sticking out from beneath his button up polo.

Overall, I was very happy with our pictures. It was just very cold and windy so I feel like in some of the shots you can tell we’re uncomfortable.

Just try to relax and have fun and don’t try to look “too perfect” because that’ll take away from the experience and the quality of the shots.














Post # 7
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sheepandbear:  Our photographer really put us at ease because when we had our engagement pictures done it was also only the 2nd time we had met her. It was kind of an interesting day because we were running late and my Fiance forgot to change his shoes into something more dressy so he ended up wearing sneakers in the pictures. Needless to say our photographer had to do some creative covering with leaves of his shoes because he had dressed up at the top but then had tennis shoes on the bottom. Then I almost lost my purse because I set it down when she took our pictures, it was kind of a Murphy’s law kind of day! But the pictures did turn out quite well, all things considered! 🙂 

As for advice, I think the best thing to do is to relax and pretend the photographer isn’t there. Because I think when you are not relaxed, it shows in the pictures. Any good photographer won’t do too much posing just kind of tell you what they are thinking, put you into position, then kind of let you do your own thing and snap the picture when they capture a great moment between the two of you. As for not being photogenic, all of us are more photogenic then we think! 🙂 Just act natural, have fun, and smile! 🙂

Post # 8
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My photographer was very vocal and honest. She also took about 700 photos in about 3 hours and got the good with the bad. I loved her style. She just let us be us.

One of my favorites…

Post # 9
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Thank you for this thread! Our engagement shoot is coming up and I’m getting really nervous about it.  The thought of having someone watching you and your Fiance turn up the PDA….Surprised 

Post # 10
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sheepandbear:  the best thing to do is ask your photographer these questions and let them know your concerns. Every photographer is different so knowing how someone else’s session went wont prepare you for what your photographer will do. It’s part of your photographers job to communicate and put you at ease. Trust me, 99% of my couples feel the same.every one tells me how not photogenic they are and how I normally work with such gorgeous couples. They aren’t. All just normal people!  I let them know what to expect in advance but also take 5 minutes at the beginning of the session to gauge their feelings, concerns etc. No one can address this better for you than your own photographer. And yeah, have one beer. But don’t have six haha!:) 

Post # 11
8442 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Our photographer was really great and coached us on where to stand, but then just let us be ourselves.  I think the more relaxed you are, the better the photos come out.

Post # 12
2967 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

our photographer posed us, told us where to look, and whatnot. some of the poses were kind of uncomfortable, like one where she had me sit/lay on a tree that had fallen and was leaning against the side of a hill. the whole time, i was just trying to keep my balance and not fall over and i was wearing a dress, so i was also worried about flashing somebody. it was funny tho and as awkward as it felt, we did get a few good shots.

i have horrible posture, so i was glad that she would make a point to say, “shoulders back” when necessary. if you’re going to wear a necklace, i’d choose something that won’t get all twisted around. i wore a chain necklace w/ a pearl charm and while my photographer did make a point to fix it once, in a lot of pictures it’s all twisted. same thing with my engagement ring. in a lot of the pictures it’s crooked or something.

oh, and make sure you wear the appropriate undergarments even if you think you don’t need them. i’m usually very good about wearing slips and nude colored undies when necessary. i wore a royal blue dress for my pics and didn’t think there would be any issues with anything showing thru (and under normal conditions i would have been fine), but with the light from the flash, my polka dot undies were in full view. thankfully, all those photos were fixable with a little photoshop, but i was still mortified.

our photographer was really fun and friendly. i was actually sad when it was over because it was fun just hanging out with her.

we are all our own worst critics when it comes to pictures and whatnot. when i first looked at our pictures, i didn’t like any of them. but i changed my mind as i looked at them more and more. i’m sure yours will come out great. just remember to have fun 🙂

Post # 13
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i’m so excited for our engagement photos. i’m a photo ham and Fiance is super handsome but photo-awkward… but after  yelling  coaching him for a few seconds, he flashes his beautiful smile and we get good photos. lol 

we have NO problem with PDA. we can’t wait… 

Post # 14
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Our photographer was awesome. She and her husband put us at ease and were a lot of fun. She and I had a lot of the same ideas, and told us just to be ourselves, but helped us pose (like, “tilt your chin up” or “move your arm back just a little”). She said we were naturals, though lol. I hate almost all pictures of me, tbh, but I liked a lot of our pictures.

Post # 15
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would def suggest having a drink (or 2 LOL) to relax.  I think our candid shots were actually the best so just let the photographer snap while you two enjoy each other.

Our engagement pictures had a carnival theme.  The photographer was our bestman so it was definetly not awkward (he wont be doing our wedding of course) He posed us most of the time.  We also got a lot of candid shots that turned out great.

Post # 16
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sheepandbear:  My good friend did our e-pics which helped with comfort levels, I think. She didn’t do a ton of directing, which wasfine . We all picked out spots and ideas together, and then she would position us or tell us what would look good etc. It was pretty natural!

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