(Closed) For those who are not TTC but plan to within the next 6months-1year

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Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This thread rocks!  I recently started a thread asking women what their favorite pregnancy prep. books were because I’m sooooo itching to start TTC.  We’re going to employ the strategy of ‘not trying not to conceive’ after our wedding for up to about a year.  If we don’t get pregnant we’ll go from there!

My only big negative crutch is my love of coffee, so I’m going to start mixing my regualr coffee with decaf then switching over completely.  I can’t give it up, I just love coffee and hazelnut creamer, haha!

I walk or run my dogs for about an hour everyday but I think I need to lose some weight too just to be in optimum shape!

We’re going to move first before we try to get pregnant too, we don’t like the city we live it atm!

Oh and don’t forget kegels!! I didn’t see anyone say that…(maybe I missed it?) EVERYONE DO YOUR FREAKIN’ KEGELS!!! =D 

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose:Thanks! I actually don’t think PCOS is a huge huge problem. With a healthy diet and exercise the symptoms can almost totally go away (unless someone has a really severe case).

I just know that I can get anxious and want to take steps to help remedy that!

I wish the best for you! ๐Ÿ™‚ (And of course all the bees who are TTC-ing!)

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hi everyone!  I too have been reading up but not chiming in to the TTC posts.  We’ve been married a little over a month but think probably won’t start trying until the new year (January/ February/ March).  We’re both 28 and solidly in our careers but he has been steadily building himself in his field more and more.  The plan is to be at a point where once a baby comes I stay home and financially we would be alright.  I have an appointment with my OBGYN in October so will start prenatal vitamins and stop BC then. I am currently eat very healthy and go to the gym/ work out 4-5 days a week.  The only thing I will change is give up my morning coffee.  I have been on BC since I was 16 and I am currently on ortho lo.  What has been other people’s experiences coming off birth control?  Has anyone had really extreme changes in their cycles? 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yay, love this thread! Thanks for starting it, @Sweet.Sugar.Rose:! Also, very sorry to hear about your loss, but I’m glad to hear you’re taking such good care of yourself now!

For us, our wedding is just under 2 weeks out. We just recently decided that our tentative timeline for TTC will be around our 1 year anniversary. I will admit, I’m not really eating all that healthy or exercising right now (I’m just so stressed!), but my plan is to begin working toward improving my health habits after the honeymoon which is right after the wedding. I also want to get a job first – I’m finishing up school in December, and I’d like to be working by January. I definitely want to have a job secured before we start TTC.

Finally, I will be visiting my “lady doc” in December, and I’m going to get her advice on what to do about going off birth control. I’ve been on some form or another for the last 10 years, with the exception of one 8-month stretch where I was travelling overseas. To be honest, I never had a period that entire time I was off it. I’m a little scared that my body won’t go back to normal without a little help. However, at the time I went into that 8-month-no-BC stretch, I had been on Depo and wasn’t having any periods anyway. Since then, I’ve switched to a seasonale-like birth control pill, and I have my period right on schedule every three months on that. So who knows, maybe it won’t be as big of a deal as I am imagining.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@Khumble: I feel stessed out about money after a baby, but mostly around daycare.  I think Fiance and I will have a couple raises in between now and then (fingers crossed), but around here it’s $1600/month for a newborn.  No amount of couponing (which we do) or cutting of extras is going to quite cut it at those rates :(. 

We make fairly good money, but Fiance has a gigantic student loan that’s just a little less per month than what my mortgage is. We live pretty comfortably now, but not extravagantly.  And I’d really be worried if nothing improves financially before we have a baby.

 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@Future MrsB: omg I feel your pain…sort of. Infant care here isn’t that much, but that’s partially because i’m in Canada and we get a year for mat leave (at 55% of the salary we were making). So infant care here is usually 12 months and up, but I’m considering going back early because 55% of a salary is hard to deal with.

thankfully, DH (eek!! hehe) works shift work, so doesn’t work every single day of the week. I think we could get by with part time private care for the days that we would both work, and then send LO to a daycare around 2 or 3 to start getting ready for school.

DH has a huge student loan as well, which is more than double – yes MORE THAN DOUBLE what my mortgage paymen is. Granted – my mortgage payment is retardedly little. But still – his student loan is going to be hard to deal with (we’re just coming into repayment).

And then, we’ll likely want to buy a bigger house in about 2 years. I just don’t understand how people do it all – mortgage, student loans, daycare, living normally, etc. thankfully, our car loan will be paid off with a couple $$ to spare when DH gets his income tax return in april

what’s really stressing me out is that I don’t know about a job. I have no idea where i’ll be in 6 months, or if i’ll be anywhere for that matter. that stresses me out on it’s own, but when you add my bio clock which is basically beating me over the head with it’s chimes, it doesn’t add any comfort.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We have an appt with a new ob/gyn for January and at that appt I will ask what she thinks about us trying to get pregnant.

I’ve had 3 pregnancies. 2 births. I was 18yo when I miscarried but I didn’t even know I was pregnant until I lost it. I also had blood pressure issues with both of my pregnancies that went to term. I’m overweight ( although I’ve lost some weight…15lbs and 8inchs thus far) and I will be 30 next year and don’t want to wait much longer.

He would have me pregnant right now lol But, with my previous issues we want the dr to review my history and give us the all clear to have a healthy shot at it. If not we will be devestated but will have to deal.

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve been stalking the TTC threads for a few weeks now ~ we aren’t planning on starting for a bit, but I’m paranoid that we’re going to have problems!  So thank you for starting this thread!  I think I’m finally brave enough to post.

So about us and our story!

I’m 30 and he is 36.  I’m overweight/obese (working on that right now) and also have borderline PCOS. 

We’ve been married for just over 4 months, but have been together for 5 1/2 years now.    We’ve also lived apart for a majority of the last 3 years. 

Why? My husband decided at 33 to go through an early mid-life crisis.  lol.  He quit his job and went back to school in another city for a 5 year Pharmacy program leaving me along with his dog house-sitting his parents house in a city I don’t care for.  I have a solid, well paying job that we couldn’t find a replacement for in his new city so we’ve decided on sticking out the LD thing for the time being.  So I get him for some of the summers and some long weekends!  He has 2 years left of school, but I’m hoping even though we see each other randomly we can start NTNT when we hook up next.

I’ve been off of B/C for the last year in an attempt to lose weight.  My body is seriously f*ed up in that regard!  I’m lucky enough to be able to work with both a nutritionist and a personal trainer and have access to free bootcamps that our company pays for every day.   So I’m active and eating the best I can!

Our original plan was to wait for him to finish school before TTC; but looking at the time line, and considering in Canada I can take the full year off; we might move that timeline up considering it might take us longer to conceive and I can move to be with him for the first year of the babies life.  I just don’t know how i feel about going through the pregnancy part alone. But I’ve begun to chart my temperatures right now so I can get a feel of what my body is doing!

 

Well… enough about me (I talk/type way too much)!  I’m excited to read everyone’s stories and see how everyone is planning to start.  For those on pre-natal vitamins, which ones?  My SIL was on some and they made her really naseous! 

 

 

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

we’re hoping to TTC early next year. since i’m a crazy planner, i’ve been stalking the baby boards and reading up! i’ll be doing much more as we get closer to the time, but right now, i’ve gone off BCP and started charting to hopefully get my cycles regular or at least be aware of how and when i’m ovulating.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: Yay for December weddings!!  My cycles are kinda regular on BCP.  Sometimes I skip periods completely though (therefore I keep a stash of sticks handy just to make sure there’s not a bun in the oven).

 

For those bees who were on BC and now off – how long did it take for you to ovulate or have regular cycles??  I’ve been on the pill 7 out of 13 years of cycles – I’m afraid my body won’t know what to do!!

 

ETA:  This is like a “waiting” board for babies… love it!

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Yay! A thread I can contribute to! Okay, confession time: I have been stalking the “babies” threads religiously for months and months! DH and I will celebrate our 2nd wedding anniversary in January and originally our plan was to wait until we had been married 5 years to TTC. But after we had a pregnancy “scare” (that ended up being some lovely ovarian cysts on both ovaries) we re-evaluated our time-line and agreed to move it up. We are going to start trying next summer in July or August! And so in my free time I stalk baby threads ๐Ÿ˜‰

To answer some of the questions floating around:

Health-wise I suffer from migraines and have been on preventaive medications for a couple of years now. My goal is to get off those meds before we start trying to conceive, preferably by making lifestyle changes that will enable me to live virtually migraine-free. So, I gave up caffeine entirely 7 months ago. I also no longer put sugar in my (decaf) coffee. I don’t drink sodas or alcohol at all. I don’t eat most processed foods because of MSGs and preservatives. So far it seems to be working, and I have been able to cut down my medication dosage without it affecting me!

I am also at elevated risk for gestational diabetes (And type 2 diabetes after the fact), which I want to avoid, so these dietary changes should help with regards to that, as well. I am also trying to lose about 10-15 lbs in the next 10 months to get to my ideal weight before we conceive. I do chart (have since we got married) but my cycles are longer than I’d like so I am also attempting to shorten my cycle.

With regards to money, I used one of those online budget calculators to figure out how much things cost (and what things we might need!), and I also weighed options such as home birth vs hospital vs birthing center. I made a spreadsheet of how much everything costs and we figured out based on that how much we need to save this year. Based on THAT we have made some changes– eating out only a few times a month, cutting back on general spending where we can, putting our savings into a high-yield savings account… we hope to have about $15000 in savings, minus whatever we need to spend in preparation costs, by the time we actually give birth to our first child.

Ok, ok…. that was a lot of info, I know ๐Ÿ™‚ I am just really excited to have an outlet for all this baby fever!

 

ETA: I am pretty sure this is the baby cost calculator I used: http://www.babycenter.com/baby-cost-calculator You can edit their suggested costs (I did some of my own research when I used it) and it allows you to take into consideration the savings of things like breast-feeding and cloth-diapering, etc (for those who choose to go those routes).

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@missrain: I’m drooling over your savings goal…can you share your secrets with me?!

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@missrain: I used that tool too!!  It’s definitely eye-opening to realize the financial impacts before TTC so you can create that nest egg.  

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

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@Khumble: No problem! We started off with a pretty good little chunk of savings that we transitioned over into a high-yield savings account so it could start making money. Then we adjusted our budget so that we live pretty much entirely off of my husband’s paycheck. My paycheck goes directly into savings each month! I don’t make a ton of money, but that alone is going to get us pretty close to our goal. If we have any extra money at the end of the month we try to make an additional deposit into savings. That, of course, is dependent over how well we stuck to our budget (which we use mint.com to monitor). If we can under-spend on groceries or entertainment or personal spending then we are golden. That doesn’t always happen, though– especially when unexpected things come up, like car repairs!

Something else we are doing is that we made a list of everything we want to do that would be difficult or impossible to do with a baby or with kids and we are doing them all this year! We have everything on the list from staying in bed all day to taking a road-trip to going to the symphony to having a fancy dinner party. We are going to take tons of pictures to document the year and this way we won’t have any reason to look back and say “I wish we had…” Plus it will hopefully make the time go more quickly ๐Ÿ˜‰

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