Post # 1
How have you handled baby showers? I was just invited to one. This is someone I’m not close with at all from my husband’s side of the family. I’d like to go, just to show support and somewhat out of morbid curiosity. However, another part of me is terrified. I have never liked babies. And perhaps it’d be different if it were my own. But I don’t coo over them. I don’t think they’re cute etc. And I don’t want to offend everyone else there by just kind of sitting around apathetic. I also absolutely dread all the “So when are you going to have a baby???” questions that will no doubt be thrown at me the whole time since I got married just over a year ago. I don’t want to be a downer to people who love kids and honestly say, “They aren’t right for us now… if ever.” Basically, I feel like I’m going to be an atheist in a church service! Ugh. All thoughts appreciated!!!
Post # 3
I can totally relate to not being into babies. For pretty much my entire life, I was the same way! Then something “clicked” and I started to like them, and now have my own child…but that’s a whole different story.
My only adive is to just be honest. Joke about the fact that baby showers aren’t really your scene. Be honest that you’re not really ready for kids and not sure if you ever will be. Some people may be pushy or surprised, but that is their problem, not yours!
Baby showers can be fun too. Just try to enjoy the games, social time, etc.
Post # 4
I’m with ya. I’m not overly fond of babies and honestly, I don’t really get what’s so awesome about them. I mean sure, I can spot a cute baby when I see one but when/if I put on a big production about a baby, I’m normally just blowing smoke in an effort to not make myself look like a cold heartless bitch.
With that said, baby showers don’t really bother me. Sometimes other people bring their babies which I find annoying but if you luck out and get a shower where the guests leave their kids at home, they can be pretty fun. All of the attention is on the mom to be so I doubt you’d get too many questions about your vacant ovaries. Although I’ve never attended a shower since getting married so I could be completely off base. Just participate in the stupid games, eat some food and watch her open her gifts. It’ll be over before ya know it.
Post # 5
The last baby shower I went to didn’t involve any baby-cooing, just food and baby-themed games. I didn’t even really know the mother and everyone spoke Spanish, lol. It was fun, none the less.
Post # 6
Thanks for the reassurance, ladies! I do believe that unfortunately there will be young children at this event due to the hosts having young children. But it’s just one day. I’ll suck it up and try to have fun! 🙂
@UpstateCait: It’s hilarious that you feel the need to put on productions about cute babies. I’ve tried to do that when I see a genuinely cute baby for the same reason!!! I don’t want people thinking I’m a beeotch. But see, in my youth, I was quite a little hellion. And I know that not all babies and toddlers are sweet and 100% innocent. Perhaps not as bad as Stewie from Family Guy. But I distinctly remember some of my first memories as being pretty evil, like sincerely plotting to kill my younger brother out of jealousy! So I don’t tend to think kids are 100% innocent/pure/perfect the way most people seem to view things. Ah well.
Post # 7
I don’t like babies, and don’t want one.
Most of our group of friends are starting families, and there have been a LOT of showers. i go, with a smile- give a gift, and then after the shower have a stiff drink.
I am a horror!
Post # 8
I’m not a huge baby person — but I actually THREW a shower for a friend earlier this year! I love her, and I’m happy for her, and I wanted her to feel special and supported in her life decision. The majority of the folks there were not big “baby people” either — but the party wasn’t for us, it was for her.
Post # 9
@pfinarffle: and somewhat out of morbid curiosity
Post # 10
Go for the cake and coffee!! (If necessary, bring your own cake. This is your excuse to eat it.)
Post # 11
I love babies (have 2!) but kind of hate baby showers. Mine was fun, but I would have been totally ok not having one. Booze helps.
Post # 12
Oh I know. My friend is having a shower and out of the group I am the Olny one that doesn’t hve children. They have all recently popped out little buns. So there will be lots of newborns at this shower…. I am soooooooooooooooo excited . :/ I jokingly told my friend that I’m not drinking the water in and around her area lest i get ” infected”.
Ps. I know that sounds mean but you would have to get our seance of humor. The first time I saw her and her cute little prego belly she said to me ” its not a tumor” in an Arnold swartenegger voice
this was the same day Both of our brothers graduated at the same time and there was a newborn a few rows next to me. Poor thing, loud people, hot sun= pissed off baby and pissed off baby noises. It let out one scream and I looked At her and said ” hear that sound? That is the sound of birdie never having babies, and the next 18 years ofyour life.”
She proceeded to wish twins on me hahah.
Post # 13
This thread is so funny!.. I’m in the same boat. The only baby shower I’ve been to had so many other (more interested) people that I had no problem hiding out in the corner with a like-minded friend and observing the bizarre rituals. If people ask about your baby plans, just smile and tell the truth. If they seem baffled or keep prying, just keep repeating the same thing. Eventually they’ll get that you’ve given them the best answer you have.
Post # 14
I recently attended a baby shower (actually the first one I’ve been to since I was like, 12) and it wasn’t as bad as I expected. I like babies well enough but I don’t freak out over them like some gals do. Anyway, there were no silly games and it was fun to watch the gifts being opened.
No one asked when I’m having babies (yay!) but that could be because it was DH’s family and I hardly talked to anyone so you may not be as lucky. 🙂
Post # 15
I don’t mind going to baby showers. I just don’t like being asked when I’m having one. Now that I’ve been married a few months everyone expects me to be popping out a kid asap. Nope. They look at me weird when I say that I don’t like kids LOL. Oh well.
I say buy a cute gift, play a few games and have some cake. I also agree with the PP that said have a stiff drink later 🙂
Post # 16
I am no fan of babies. I have had to attend one for one of my friends. It was a lot less painful than I had imagined. It wasn’t your typical baby shower that focuses on everything ‘baby’. I know her and I knew she’d just be into dancing and eating all night. More like a party-scene. And that’s what it was.
If I had to sit through a painful one, I would opt out and lie abt having some appointment or other, but send a gift (if that person is close/important to you!)
There are times when you simply don’t have a choice and it’s your BFF or sibling. In which case, you gotta muster up all the energy you got to suck it up and try to act like you are havin’ a good time and help out as MUCH as possible. After all, they’d do the same for you!