(Closed) For those who can't have orgasms during intercourse

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 17
124 posts
Blushing bee

RoseDaisyLily:  I felt this way at first too as my Boyfriend or Best Friend was very very inexperienced when we started dating (not that I was a sex god or anything though) and we looked online together and we talked about it before it happened. It was the most awkward thing I’ve ever done and same for him but it has helped. Turn the lights off- therefore you can’t get SO embarassed! haha. Good luck!!!!

Post # 18
150 posts
Blushing bee

Guys enjoy sex more when you do too. He should be fine with it. 

Post # 19
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

I guess the big thing here is that you make things worse by trying to force the Big O during PIV sex. Most of us do not climax during PIV sex and that is why I think considerate men do oral or other stuff and give her with opportunities for an O or several O’s before PIV.

You could also try the CAT (coital alignment technique – easily Googled on the web) in which the man will aim to connect his upper central pelvic bone area with her corresponding pelvic area and so stimulate the clitoris more directly mainly in the missionary position.  (During ordinary PIV missionary her clit. receives mostly only indirect stimulation – his penis shaft during even deep thrusting is not directly in contact with her clitoris. She receives mostly indirect stimulation via tugs action from labia during PIV. The CAT helps that along. The same principle (keeping the upper pelvises in more direct contact with each other) is found working in the cowgirl and her straddling his lap positions).

Post # 20
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

I dont have time to masturbate. but when i was younger i always got there. i orgasm from oral sex almost always. i also orgasm from girl on top…but any other position i cant feel a thing. what gets me to orgasm is thinking about my fantasy. i orgasm like 90% of the time from girl on top and 98% from oral.

Post # 21
3093 posts
Sugar bee


Ninebones:  LMAOOOOOO…one of the funniest ish I have ever read.

Post # 22
1312 posts
Bumble bee

I enjoy an orgasm before we even have sex 🙂 I feel like I could orgasm during sex, I can feel the building sensations but never stop Fiance since I already got mine, but I might try someday. It’s not hugely important to me though since I am already satisfied beforehand. 

Post # 23
101 posts
Blushing bee

SO always takes care of me first. THEN we have sex to take care of him. I still enjoy it.. still feels great! It works for us.

Post # 24
84 posts
Worker bee

I can get an orgasm by myself in less than 10 seconds by clitoral stimulation, but it takes longer for my SO to get me off via intercourse. Since he rubs my clit a little too rough, I usually do it myself while penetrated. Receiving oral sex can also help me get off, but he does it whenever he felt like it -.- Vibrators are all right for me, but definitely prefer oral sex before intercourse, and I will definitely have a big orgasm 

Post # 25
48 posts

kisa15:  Too funny! Mine keeps count too lol

Post # 26
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

So…I’m not just saying this because he’s my Fiance and the man I’m going to marry, but he just knows what he is doing. I have ONLY orgasmed from intercourse with him. I can get off when he grinds down while inside me- stimulating my clitoris. It takes a few minutes, but it happens…most times. Him on top/me on bottom. It also doesn’t hurt that he is rather “large” so it’s extreme stimuli! 

Before him…I still enjoyed sex, but I would not orgasm from it. 

Post # 27
141 posts
Blushing bee

I’m so glad you started this thread. We need to teach each other and the only way to do that is to discuss things. 

The simple trick is this: However you bring yourself to orgasm when you masturbate, do that while he penetrates you. It ramps up the feeling x100 so it’s a skill worth learning. The hardest part is masturbating with someone else in the room getting in the way, but you go with it and incorporate him, and in the end it’s amazing.

Ladies who can reach climax from penetration only are rare. And extremely lucky I might add.

Post # 28
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

Ninebones:  I think you are referring to Pandora’s Box lol no pun intended.

Post # 29
2279 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My husband is really good at being sure I have an orgasm with a vibrator either before or after sex (or both). 

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