Post # 1
Tips? Id like to try it, I promised my SO I would. He has put one or two fingers in there, and 9 times out of 10 it feels good, but after awhile it feels good. I am very afraid of letting him put his penis in there, and I keep putting it off. I also hear you….ahem…afterward, and that worries me.
So pointers? What not to do? All input is appriciated! For those who havent or will not do it again, dont reply, I dont need snarkiness on my posts!
Post # 3
Lube is something that is definitily necessary since, a penis feels different then fingers. It can hurt because its wider. Lube is your friend, the other tips I have are that the most important things are relaxing, knowing that you can stop at any time and that the person you are doing it with you can trust, cares about you and would never hurt you. Also, don’t tense up, and remain calm.
Don’t rush it, like when I first tryed it, I was under the impression that, well, he would slide in and it would feel like it would in the other hole. I was wrong. It involves stretching, go reaaaally slow and ease into it. Its seriously like your a virgin again, thats how well, tight/tense that kinda thing will be, so be very gentle. Trust your partner, focus on the love between you and how much you enjoy each other and everything will fall into place.
Post # 5
Yeah, I agree with Livelifeveryday that you need to relax and use lots of lube. Problem is, apart from the obvious consequence of it hurting, you can also tear tissue around there and the effects of that, as you can imagine, will last a lot longer than you would like it to. If you take your time and realize that it’s something that has to be stretched and all that, you’ll be fine. But if you’re really scared and tense or if even fingers make it hurt, then I would have to tell you to expect it to not feel good until atleast a couple times.
One thing that helps a lot is to just stimulate the area without any penetration at all. This will help you with your body’s natural reaction to touch there. The idea is to get your body used to touch and not to clentch.
Post # 6
Start off with a small toy like a butt plug first. You have to work your way up to be able to handle a penis. And when you do, please lube up good. Also, you may want to lay on your back because doggy style maybe too much for you. Oh and relax. Enjoy 🙂
Post # 7
Lube. When you think you have enough, add more.
Agree with the butt plug, too, as well as trying it laying on your back first.
Post # 8
@Liss13: Relax, use lots of lube, he may need to reapply. I would do some research on good lube options (Adam and Eve has a section with lube strictly for anal – I’ve posted about lube woes, going to try some new ones). I would also recommend working up to a butt plug or dildo/vibrator before he penetrates you with his penis. A few fingers versus an actual dick… big difference!
For me, it took one to two times before it actually started feeling good, it’s tight back there so it needs to be stretched out. But once we got used to it, it’s actually quite an erotic senstation, it affects my whole body.
On to the extreme Too Much Information portion… I don’t poop afterwards. But I fart a lot, I guess it’s kind of like queefing after/during regular sex. And yes, there will be some remnants in your rear and on his penis. That’s just the gross stuff that comes along with anal. But I otherwise really enjoy it. So don’t let this discourage you!
Yeah so, try some toys first (a butt plug is a good option because its thickness is graduated), try some different lubes, and make sure you’re really ready (or really horny) before he penetrates you! Good luck, have fun!
Post # 9
@mrsamartin: Also agree, lay on your back. I actually pretty much always do it this way because I have the option to stimulate myself, gives him a good view when I orgasm!