(Closed) For Those Who Don’t Like Honeymoon Registries..

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I disagree with the perspective that it’s somehow rude to purchase something off-registry. Frankly the attitude of “it’s MY wedding and you should just give me what I want” is ridiculously entitled. A wedding gift is an expression of your appreciation of the marriage and your relationship with the couple. It is not a “duty” of the guest to go out and fetch something the bride and groom ask for. While I get the fact that it might be disappointing to get something that’s not on the registry, a gift regardless of whether or not it was on or off registry, is never “rude.” 

OP, if you don’t want to contribute to the honeymoon, then I would go with personal and thoughtful as much as you can. I like the suggestion of purchasing something that they can enjoy on the honeymoon, like a restaurant certificate, or something they can use. A box filled with useful guidebooks, travel plug adaptors, universal battery chargers, compact umbrellas, some tonie travel-sized toiletries in the requisite plastic bag etc. would be nice. Flight 001 always has chic options and ThinkGeek has a lot of electronic gadgets suitable for travel. 

Another option is to figure out when they come home and arrange to have some kind of foodstuff delivered (or cook them something yourself and drop it off) for the day after. When you’re travel-fatigued and jetlagged and nothing’s in the refrigerator, some special delivery lasagna cupcakes might be just the ticket: http://www.heirloomla.com/market-place.html

Post # 33
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367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My Future Brother-In-Law and his then wife just wanted money for the honeymoon but my fiance and I aren’t big fans of that idea so we got them a really nice photo frame.

Long story short the woman buggered off with as much money as she could after less than a year but he still has the frame! Although maybe not a great reminder.

Post # 35
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4485 posts
Honey bee

I was brought up with the idea that you don’t pay for anything for the honeymoon, nor do you give anyone cash gifts. You get something from their registry, and if they don’t have one, you buy them a gift you know they will like for their new home, based on what you know of the couple’s interests and tastes. It does not have to be towels or appliances, contrary to the polular belief that that is all a registry consists of. It can be something fun they will enjoy together.

Post # 36
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13888 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I always write a check to the couple.  They can use it however they see fit!

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