- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I disagree with the perspective that it’s somehow rude to purchase something off-registry. Frankly the attitude of “it’s MY wedding and you should just give me what I want” is ridiculously entitled. A wedding gift is an expression of your appreciation of the marriage and your relationship with the couple. It is not a “duty” of the guest to go out and fetch something the bride and groom ask for. While I get the fact that it might be disappointing to get something that’s not on the registry, a gift regardless of whether or not it was on or off registry, is never “rude.”
OP, if you don’t want to contribute to the honeymoon, then I would go with personal and thoughtful as much as you can. I like the suggestion of purchasing something that they can enjoy on the honeymoon, like a restaurant certificate, or something they can use. A box filled with useful guidebooks, travel plug adaptors, universal battery chargers, compact umbrellas, some tonie travel-sized toiletries in the requisite plastic bag etc. would be nice. Flight 001 always has chic options and ThinkGeek has a lot of electronic gadgets suitable for travel.
Another option is to figure out when they come home and arrange to have some kind of foodstuff delivered (or cook them something yourself and drop it off) for the day after. When you’re travel-fatigued and jetlagged and nothing’s in the refrigerator, some special delivery lasagna cupcakes might be just the ticket: http://www.heirloomla.com/market-place.html