Post # 1
Many of you who “knew” he was the one quickly, like when you first met, or within the first few weeks/months… would you consider yourself more or a thinker or a feeler? Do you get “gut instincts” a lot that you trust? Or do you have to think about something a lot before making a decision?
*****ALSO…. how/when did you know he was the one?*****
Sorry there is no inbetween… I know everyone is mostly a mix, but try and decide which category you primarily fall in.
By feeler I mean someone who has and goes a lot by intuition, trust or go by gut feelings, makes decision based more on emotion/feeling/gut instinct, who is swayed more by how things feel or seem over analysis and pro/cons, deduction, tends not to over-analyze or get bogged down by details, takes people’s emotions into consideration more than “right/wrong/best/worst” (because those people are not being real enough and taking into considerations how people are emotionally affected… because how you feel ultimately is the most important), etc. May be affected by emotional things or become emotional rather easily.
By thinker I mean someone who tends to seriously analyze and think about things a lot, mostly disregard feelings/emotions in decision making, rely on what “logically” makes sense rather than go by how something feels or seems, despite how you feel on the matter, not pay attention to any emotional ups and downs, look at how things can play out step-by-step as the future unfolds, values more of what is “right/wrong/best/worst” over how someone might feel (because they’re being too emotional and not thinking clearly, and what is right/wrong/best/worst ultimately will lead to happiness/clarity/serenity, even though it might not seem like it at the time) etc. Probably doesn’t become emotional very easily in most circumstances, remains more detatched.
(poll is to follow… having problems posting, so will post this first and then add poll)
Post # 3
I’m a thinker, and it took a few years to know he was the one, but that could be due to the fact that we started dating at 16 and we’ve changed a lot since then. After we got through sophmore year of college (it was rocky and we fought a lot) I think I knew we would make it through the next 2 years of LDR and he was the one.
Post # 4
i am definitely a thinker… our relationship is kind of weird because we were friends for a year or so before we started dating (although i had a HUGE crush on him during that time!). so when we started dating, and things just felt so right, i knew he was the one a few months in. but it was also kind of an analytical decision because we were friends first. 🙂
Post # 5
im a little of both, my intuition has let me down a few times so i try not to rely on that too heavily but i have to admit im such a romantic. but with all the hardships in love that ive had it forced me to be a thinker, and so with him it was both. i felt it and i knew it in my heart and mind that hes the one, but moreso based on his actions proving to me that he will be there and wont hurt me like the others. hes definetly a god send.
Post # 6
I am very much a feeler but I’ve been hurt a lot in the past so I kind of forced myself to be a thinker, if that makes sense? My feelings were there because I’m a feeler but I guess I refused to accept them until I thought it through and made sure I wasn’t crazy by talking to my friends who had met him.
Post # 7
I’m a huge thinker. I think and analyze over everything, from who to be friends with, to what to eat, to what clothes to wear. I don’t ever go on gut feeling. It was actually really terrifying to meet him for the first time and just feel it… feel that he is the one. 😛 There was no thinking for analyzing on that one! haha
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
None of the options are quite right for me. I’m a feeler. I spent most of my dating life relying on feelings, and then watching as my feelings led me down the wrong track. LOL So I felt it with Mr. LK, but I refused to rely on those feelings. This time I needed to logically know that it was right. And the logic was undeniable… Mr. Lk was the most amazing match I could ever hope for on every level. So it was feeling AND logic, ftw!
Post # 9
you “stole” my logo and my close hometown… I’m from BR 🙂
OP, For my everyday life, I TRY to incorporate both into my decision making process and to strike a balance between the two. At my core, I am more of a thinker. However; when I met DH, I didn’t peg him as “ the one” for about 6-8 months in. We were both hesitant at first, but once we made the decision to get married, we dove in headfirst.
Post # 10
I’m absolutely a thinker in general, but the way I felt about dh basically immediately knocked me off my socks and I knew then that he was different! the first time we kissed I felt like I was totally breathless and I didn’t stop smiling for days, lol. with previous guys, I’d totally overanalyzed everything and could never tell if I actually liked a guy if I just thought they were nice and enjoyed their attentions, but with dh it was totally different
Post # 11
I couldn’t vote because I’m really equally both. Feelings probably trump logic when I can’t decide something though. I guess I’m not sure what else to say because I’m not sure what you’re looking for. With FH, I didn’t really worry much about the future because we were young, but I knew within a couple months he was it.
Post # 12
I just moved out here, I’m from Central originally haha
Post # 13
I’m a thinker. I knew the second time I met him. (The first time had been a year before at the same bar – he was the friend of one of my friends who had invited everyone out.) I remember basically every single date I wanted to just ask him to marry me already. It was the oddest thing. Fortunately all our time together has done nothing but confirm my gut feeling, so the thinker in me can be satisfied with the outcome.
Post # 14
I’m 100% a thinker, and I knew within the first month of dating him that he was the one I was supposed to marry (: It was definitely a weird feeling, since usually I’m so logical. We were 17.
Post # 15
Thinker. i knew within the first 3 months of dating he was different. Odd for me, but it worked out that way. He’s a feeler and knew before I did lol.
Post # 16
I fall in an “inbetween” stage. I voted for feeler, but it was really a happy medium of the two.
I was a “thinker” before we reunited. My husband and I had gotten in touch through Facebook and entered into a LDR. We talked a lot about the pros and cons of this relationship compared to the one I left him for, and was going to settle for. A lot of analytics went on here, so this was the “thinker” part.
A month later he flew me out to see him for three weeks and that’s when I knew, and it was the “feeler” part.