- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
Hi guys, I need your help regarding living with your inlaws. My future father inlaw is set to come live with us towards the end of December and I’m not looking forward to it. I used to say that I could live with him because I’ve never had a problem with him before and I used to always stay the night when my fiance used to live with his dad, but after his last visit with us in the summer, I couldn’t stand it! He was so obnoxious. My fiance and I only live in a one bedroom apartment so yeah it was tight having him visit for a week, but he just always tries to be funny, but he just ends up being immature and annoying. I don’t know what to do and I’m worried he’s going to live with us forever because I don’t think he can afford to live on his own. He lost his job a couple of years ago and is living off of social security. He can afford to live off of social security where he lives now, but he wants to move back to California and unless he rents a room somewhere, he can’t afford to get a place of his own. I think he’s a great person and I’m comfortable around him, but I just don’t know if I can be comfortable in my own home with him there. I’m trying to get into nursing school so it’s hard to study or do school work when he’s there because he’s loud and he constantly asks stupid questions to try to be funny. We’re in the process of finding a big enough house to rent so that I can escape to a different area of the house whenever I feel like I need to get away from him, but I don’t know if that’s enough. His dad says that we’re doing him a favor by allowing him to live with us, but I feel like he may take over the place because that’s what he did when he came to visit us. I just don’t want this to put a strain on my relationship with my fiance. During the summer my fiance got super mad at me because he saw a text I sent to my friend saying his dad was obnoxious, and said he didn’t know if he could be with me since I had a problem with his dad, but later on that day he got irritated with his dad also, so he brushed being mad at me under the rug because he knew I was right.
So for those who live with your inlaws, how do you deal with it?