Post # 16
We were in our 40s. We connected online, were long distance, had our first date two months later, saw each other 2-3 times a month for five months and then became engaged. We were married slightly less than a year later.
Post # 17
We dated for exactly one year before we got engaged. Got married 8 months later.
Post # 18
- Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion
mohbestie: I think these things tend to go faster when you are a bit older. I met my Boyfriend or Best Friend last July, the night before his 40th birthday. I was 34 (I am now 35; he’s still 40 🙂 ). Around Thanksgiving (so, only 4 months in), we started talking about getting married. We’re not officially engaged, but we picked out a ring and he said I’ll have it sometime before July 1, so that’ll be a little less than year after our first date. The tentative plan is to get married next winter, which would be about a year and a half after first date.
Anyway, I think it’s totally reasonable to bring up these topics if you know what you want. A friend of mine was in a long-term relationship in which she was afraid to bring up marriage, kids, etc., and after they broke up, she regretted that she hadn’t spoken her mind about what she wanted for the future. Now she has been with a new guy for a little over a year and they plan to get married (although, like my situation, it is not official official).
Post # 19
apostrophecatastrophe: Oh I definitely plan on bringing these things up. Although, even that plan hasn’t always been fool-proof. I was with a guy for a year who told me from day one that he wanted marriage and kids and then just shortly before our anniversary said he had been doing a lot of thinking and decided he didn’t want kids after all. I ended things and still think there is a good chance he’ll end up with kids someday and it was just an excuse to get me to break up with him. Oh well.
The first time the new guy and I even start hinting about becoming exclusive I will take that as my opening to lay it all out.
Post # 20
I met my Fiance when i was 29, so can i still play? I’m 31 now (:
We dated 2 years and a couple of months before the proposal. We knew much sooner than the proposal that we would get married, but my sister got engaged shortly after our 1 year anniversary, married just after our 2 year anniversary, and we had decided we wanted to wait until after her wedding to officially get engaged. getting married next june – 2 months before my 33rd birthday. so a total of about 3.5 years from first date to walking down the aisle.
Post # 21
- Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front
We met: Dec 13 2011
Engaged: Dec 25 2015
Marrying: May 6 2017
We’ll both be 47…..YIKES!!
Post # 22
Just like iluvsophia, I started dating my fiancé when I was 29… so that’s pretty much 30, LOL!
I was acquaintances with him from when I was 27 but we didn’t start dating until 2 years after that. He’s also 5 years younger than me! He was 24 when we started dating. Of course at first, before I got to know him, I may have been a wee bit nervous. I have girlfriends my age dating men in their early to mid-30s who still don’t have rings on their fingers. And here I was getting into a relationship with a 24 year old. However, age was luckily never an issue when it came to the course of our relationship.
We basically hit a milestone every year we were together. We started dating when he was 24 and I was 29. We moved in together when he was 25 and I was 30. We got engaged when he was 26 and I was 31. We’ll be married next April 2017… he’ll be 27 and I’ll be 32.
I never gave him any kind of ultimatum, like… I have to be married by such-and-such age. But I have always said I don’t wanna pop kids out right after getting married. I want to be married for a few years. So, once he knew he was serious about me, he must have done the math… LOL!
Post # 23
Met online, spoke incessantly for three months. Met in person end of January and was married a month later.
Post # 24
We met when I was 29 and he was 34…were friends for about four months before deciding to make a go of it, and got engaged a year and four months later. Our engagement will have been 18 months by the time we finally say I do (LDR problems), so not a super long relationship overall. I will say that we were talking about marriage pretty much right away once we started dating…neither of us was interested in messing around just for the sake of it, and were both very candid about what we wanted.
Post # 25
We met a month before I was 31 (he was 32)
We dated 2 yrs, 7 mths
we had a 13 month engagement.
Married at age 34, he was 35
Post # 26
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
We were introduced when I was 32 (he’s 2 years older) and were friends for a little over a year. Started dating June of last year (33), got engaged March of this year (still 33). Will be married March of 2018 (at 35).
Post # 27
We dated for two years before getting engaged and will have been together for three years when we get married.
Post # 28
We dated 11 months before getting engaged
Post # 29
When we met, I was 30 and he turned 36 a week after our first date. Our first date was Memorial weekend. We started talking about marriage by the end of the summer and looking at rings around Christmas. He bought a ring and was planning to propose on our anniversary. However, he is bad at keeping secrets and surprises and let it slip that he’d bought a ring, so he proposed earlier than he initially planned – in early February.
Our 18 month engagement was twice as long as we’d been together before we got engaged.
Post # 30
Oh gawd are we “older couples”?? In my mind we are still young and cool lol. I was 33, he was 30. Engaged right at 1 year. Our engagement will be 15 mo long. We’re gettig married next June. We will have been together 2 year 3 mo when we get married (I think, I suck at math lol).