(Closed) For those who met their FI/DH after the age of 30

posted 4 years ago in 30 Something
  • poll: How long where you dating before getting engaged?
    less than a year : (53 votes)
    21 %
    1-2 years : (104 votes)
    42 %
    2-5 years : (74 votes)
    30 %
    Longer than 5 years : (18 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 16
    11480 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We were in our 40s. We connected online, were long distance, had our first date two months later, saw each other 2-3 times a month for five months and then became engaged. We were married slightly less than a year later.

    Post # 17
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    We dated for exactly one year before we got engaged. Got married 8 months later.

    Post # 18
    862 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

    mohbestie:  I think these things tend to go faster when you are a bit older. I met my Boyfriend or Best Friend last July, the night before his 40th birthday. I was 34 (I am now 35; he’s still 40 🙂 ). Around Thanksgiving (so, only 4 months in), we started talking about getting married. We’re not officially engaged, but we picked out a ring and he said I’ll have it sometime before July 1, so that’ll be a little less than year after our first date. The tentative plan is to get married next winter, which would be about a year and a half after first date. 

    Anyway, I think it’s totally reasonable to bring up these topics if you know what you want. A friend of mine was in a long-term relationship in which she was afraid to bring up marriage, kids, etc., and after they broke up, she regretted that she hadn’t spoken her mind about what she wanted for the future. Now she has been with a new guy for a little over a year and they plan to get married (although, like my situation, it is not official official).

    Post # 20
    2506 posts
    Sugar bee

    I met my Fiance when i was 29, so can i still play? I’m 31 now (:

    We dated 2 years and a couple of months before the proposal. We knew much sooner than the proposal that we would get married, but my sister got engaged shortly after our 1 year anniversary, married just after our 2 year anniversary, and we had decided we wanted to wait until after her wedding to officially get engaged. getting married next june – 2 months before my 33rd birthday. so a total of about 3.5 years from first date to walking down the aisle.

    Post # 21
    1581 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

    We met:     Dec 13 2011

    Engaged:   Dec 25 2015

    Marrying:   May 6 2017

    We’ll both be 47…..YIKES!! 



    Post # 22
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Just like iluvsophia, I started dating my fiancé when I was 29… so that’s pretty much 30, LOL! 

    I was acquaintances with him from when I was 27 but we didn’t start dating until 2 years after that. He’s also 5 years younger than me! He was 24 when we started dating. Of course at first, before I got to know him, I may have been a wee bit nervous. I have girlfriends my age dating men in their early to mid-30s who still don’t have rings on their fingers. And here I was getting into a relationship with a 24 year old. However, age was luckily never an issue when it came to the course of our relationship.

    We basically hit a milestone every year we were together. We started dating when he was 24 and I was 29. We moved in together when he was 25 and I was 30. We got engaged when he was 26 and I was 31. We’ll be married next April 2017… he’ll be 27 and I’ll be 32. 

    I never gave him any kind of ultimatum, like… I have to be married by such-and-such age. But I have always said I don’t wanna pop kids out right after getting married. I want to be married for a few years. So, once he knew he was serious about me, he must have done the math… LOL! 

    Post # 23
    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Met online, spoke incessantly for three months. Met in person end of January and was married a month later. 

    Post # 24
    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    We met when I was 29 and he was 34…were friends for about four months before deciding to make a go of it, and got engaged a year and four months later. Our engagement will have been 18 months by the time we finally say I do (LDR problems), so not a super long relationship overall. I will say that we were talking about marriage pretty much right away once we started dating…neither of us was interested in messing around just for the sake of it, and were both very candid about what we wanted.

    Post # 25
    951 posts
    Busy bee

    We met a month before I was 31 (he was 32)

    We dated 2 yrs, 7 mths 

     we had a 13 month engagement. 

    Married at age 34, he was 35 

    Post # 26
    3529 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    We were introduced when I was 32 (he’s 2 years older) and were friends for a little over a year. Started dating June of last year (33), got engaged March of this year (still 33). Will be married March of 2018 (at 35).

    Post # 27
    15 posts
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We dated for two years before getting engaged and will have been together for three years when we get married.  

    Post # 28
    2120 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We dated 11 months before getting engaged

    Post # 29
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    When we met, I was 30 and he turned 36 a week after our first date. Our first date was Memorial weekend. We started talking about marriage by the end of the summer and looking at rings around Christmas. He bought a ring and was planning to propose on our anniversary. However, he is bad at keeping secrets and surprises and let it slip that he’d bought a ring, so he proposed earlier than he initially planned – in early February. 

    Our 18 month engagement was twice as long as we’d been together before we got engaged. 

    Post # 30
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Oh gawd are we “older couples”?? In my mind we are still young and cool lol. I was 33, he was 30. Engaged right at 1 year. Our engagement will be 15 mo long. We’re gettig married next June. We will have been together 2 year 3 mo when we get married (I think, I suck at math lol).

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  mrsbrizz2017.

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