(Closed) For those who met their FI/DH after the age of 30

posted 4 years ago in 30 Something
  • poll: How long where you dating before getting engaged?
    less than a year : (53 votes)
    21 %
    1-2 years : (104 votes)
    42 %
    2-5 years : (73 votes)
    29 %
    Longer than 5 years : (18 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 31
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I think it is generally true that, as you get older, you have less you need to wait for. If you want children, you actually need to hurry up! It became much easier after 30 to say to boyfriends, “I am looking for marriage. If that’s not what you want, let’s just be friends.” It also made it easier that I live in cultures and have a job where dating for a long time (or at all!) is not usually an option.

    We were only together for 4 months before we started talking seriously about getting married and planning it. We also work together and essentially started living together within a month of starting our relationship. We will be getting married this summer, so about 1 year, 4 months from when we started seeing each other. 

    Post # 32
    Member
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Met him at 30. Got engaged after nine months. Getting married15 months after. So basically everything is a wrap in two years. I will be 32, him 29. 

    Post # 33
    Member
    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I started dating my husband at age 30, married at 35. Today is our 1 year anniversary @36! Kinda funny because my mom was same age as me and had 3 kids already…

    Post # 34
    Hostess
    4029 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I met SO at 33, he was 29. We’ve been together for almost a year and a half and plan on being engaged by our 2 year anniversary. Things have always just moved pretty smoothly along on a time line. Started talking abut moving in together, marriage etc at the 6 month mark. Moved in together at 1 year. Engaged at 2 years and probably will have the wedding 6 months after that. 

    Post # 35
    Member
    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    We started dating in September 2014, I was just shy of 29 and he’s younger than me (26). We did everything pretty quickly. Had the kid talk right away (no for both of us and was a non starter for both of us), spent Thanksgiving with his family out of town after 2 months, Christmas with mine after 3 months. Moved in together after 11 months, we set a date around 16 months. Not officially engaged yet, but he told me it will be this summer and he wants to start booking the venues and venders. 

    Post # 36
    Member
    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Fiance and I originally dated when we were in the Peace Corps–I was 28 and he was 24. We broke up, married other people and didn’t have contact for years. After we were both divorced, we reconnected through Facebook and were dating about 18 months before getting engaged. We aren’t getting married for 2 more years because I want to be finished with grad school. 

    Post # 37
    Member
    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    We started talking four days after my 30th birthday, when I was casually dating. We met on 9/11 (literally his only day off as a LEO) and hit it off. I even remember saying to him “um, that Thursday is 9/11 and we lost a family friend in the second plane to hit the towers, but okay” because it had taken us since July to meet up. 

    He proposed on 12/24/2015 and we got to go straight to my family to celebrate the Feast of the Seven Fishes (and the announcement was awesome- I walked in and showed my SIL my ring and made her cry, then told my brother and everyone!) 

    We are planning our wedding for 7/22/2017 partly because of the venue as well as my father’s recovery from serious surgeries. I’ll be turning 33 on 7/24/17 & he’ll be turning 30 the next month. A longer engagement wasn’t necessarily in my cards, but I’m back for a second Masters so it works out for the best. 

     

    Post # 38
    Member
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We met November 2013 (I was 31, he was 30).

    Engaged August 2014

    Married August 2015

    Baby expected October 2016 

    Post # 39
    Member
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Old Lake County Courthouse

    We met in 2012 (I was 31 and he turned 32 later that year). First date was August 2014, got engaged Oct 2015, and getting married June 2016

    Post # 40
    Member
    42 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2017 - Triangle, Virginia

    We’d been friends for 6 years or so before he asked me out. Mutual interest was always there, but timing never worked out until February 2013. On our three-and-a-half year anniversary, he asked me to do him the “incredible honor of marrying” him. It’s only been 3 months, but I can’t stop smiling. I will be 36, he will be almost 29, when we get married on October 24th, 2017. This will be my second marriage, and his first. 

    Post # 41
    Member
    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I was 38 when I met my Boyfriend or Best Friend, who was 39. We will be dating 4 years next month, and I would like to be engaged sometime next year. We took things pretty slowly. We weren’t even Facebook friends until 6 months into the relationship and didn’t say “I love you” until over a year in. We moved in together after 3 years. I did make sure he was into long-term commitment and wasn’t against marriage before I moved forward though. It will be my second marriage and his first.

    Post # 42
    Member
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m 29, but I’ll play because my SO is 39.

    We’ve been togther about 14 months now, and will be married next Fall. So, I guess that’ll make it around 2 years total for dating and engagement? We’ve both been previously married, and he has a child. Things tend to simultaneously speed up AND slow down when you introduce a young child into the mix. A lot of “tough” conversations are had VERY early on, and we have it all roadmapped right now, but still “waiting” to an extent because we wanted to give our families and his child time to adjust and get to know me/us before we make it official. If not, we’d have already gotten married!

    Post # 43
    Member
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Fiance and I had our first date in late October 2015 (I was 32 and he was 30). I moved into his place in late Feburary 2016 and he talked to me then about proposing to me in April 2017. Instead, he proposed to me July 2016! We’re getting married in July 2017 and going to try for children in late 2017.

    Our relationship advanced quickly but smoothly because the progression felt natural, and we just want to be together. Upon reflection, how quickly the changes occurred seems nuts at times but it still feels right to me. 🙂

    Post # 44
    Member
    1178 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    We met when I was just shy of 31, he was 35. Engaged on our 2 year anniversary. Will have a 7 month engagement. 😍

    Post # 45
    Member
    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    First date: 1/1/15

    Engagement: 10/11/16

    I was 35 and my fiance was 28 when we first met, and I was 37 and fiance had just turned 30 when we got engaged.  We’re getting married in August 2017.  I was pretty clear with him that with my ticking biological clock (I’m childless and want kids), I wanted to try to conceive next year after getting married.  If I weren’t anxious about getting pregnant ASAP, I would have actually been fine to wait another year or so before engagement.

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