(Closed) For those who met their FI/DH after the age of 30

posted 4 years ago in 30 Something
  • poll: How long where you dating before getting engaged?
    less than a year : (53 votes)
    21 %
    1-2 years : (104 votes)
    42 %
    2-5 years : (74 votes)
    30 %
    Longer than 5 years : (18 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 46
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    8944 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    Even though this thread is a bit old I am loving it. I started dating my Boyfriend or Best Friend only 4 months ago. We had both been single for approx 2 years. On our first date we discussed if either of us wanted to get married and have kids. I made it clear I am not interested in dating someone for years and years and not getting married and having babies etc. He is 38 and I am 31. He has been married before (17 years ago!). We were discussing our living arrangements and I said I don’t want to be living with another boyfriend and then waiting years and years to get engaged. He said that won’t happen.

     

    I don’t want to rush things but it is nice to know when you are older it is a bit more acceptable to get on with it!

    Post # 47
    Member
    55 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m turning 31 next month and have been dating FH for more than three years, two years officially next month. Still waiting for FH to put a ring in it!

    Post # 48
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    4891 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Started dating November 2010, got engaged February 2014, married October 2014. I was 33 and he was 35 when we got married.

    When we met, I was a few months shy of turning 30, and he was a few months shy of turning 32.

    Post # 49
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    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

    SLOBee :  Hey! Same here! We married two months after our 2nd dating annivesary. He is 40 and I am 32.

    Post # 50
    Member
    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    First date Feb 2016, engaged September 2016 wedding date Feb 2018. I’m 45 and he’ll be 46 next month. 

    Never been happier 😊

    Post # 51
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    880 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2019

    I was exactly 30 when I met my fiance and we just got engaged 4 years later.  But he is 4 years younger than me so it took him a little longer to feel ready for marriage and, as someone who had just made a big career shift, to save up for the ring.

    Post # 52
    Member
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

    We started dating October 2014 when I was 34 and he was 40.  We got engaged late September 2017 just before the 3 year mark, and plan on marrying June 2019.  We moved in together March 2016.

    From the get go we have been on the same page about taking it slow with our relationship, and felt it important to live together at least 2 years before getting married.  We’re right on track with the timeline we discussed and agreed on.  This is the second marriage for both of us and we’ve both brought children into the relationship.

    Post # 53
    Member
    378 posts
    Helper bee

    Just got engaged Saturday! We have been dating a year and a half. However, I dont want to get married until 2020 although it does not matter to him.

    Post # 54
    Member
    578 posts
    Busy bee

    Started dating in March of 2016, engaged July of 2017, will be married in May of 2018. I’m 32.

    Post # 55
    Member
    5531 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

    DUDE. I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH THIS. I think for women the biological clock is very real. So while I was with my last serious relationship for 5 years, I let my SO know that I have a timeline of when id like to be engaged/married. And if he can not respect/ doesn’t agree with my timeline..thats fine but dont waste my time. This all sounds very harsh but its the reality of the situation… no time to waste. If he knows im not the one he wants to marry..no hard feelings but tell me ASAP. I expect to be engaged within a year and a half of the beginning of our relationship. Married in 2. 

    Post # 56
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    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    It was exactly 3 years to the day we first met when he proposed. I’m about to turn 34 and he will be 42 this year.

    Post # 57
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    2741 posts
    Sugar bee

    I met my husband a couple of months before my 30th birthday. We got engaged at 14 months and married 10 months later. 

    I wasn’t in as much of a rush as he was and could have waited another year quite frankly, but I was confident about our relationship. I think the main thing when you’re in your 30s is just that you know yourself and what you want from a relationship and from your life better. It’s easier to plan long term.

    Post # 58
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    120 posts
    Blushing bee

    Met/dating since 11/11/16. Engaged 11/11/17. We will be married 11/11/18. I was 34 when we met, he was 43. We will be 36 and 45 when we get married. I knew the night that I met him, he was “the one”. We had connected online and talked (ALOT) for about two weeks before we met in person. Our relationship is great, better than any relationship I’ve ever had. I think age and experience has helped me a bit here, I know what I want and he has it! 

    Post # 59
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    3099 posts
    Sugar bee

    We met when I was 35 and he was 49.  We’ve been dating for 2.5 years, just picked out the ring this past weekend and we will probably get engaged in the next 6 months.  

    We probably would have moved things along quicker, but we lived about 1 hour and 15 minutes apart (can be up to 2 hours with bad traffic), so we’ve had to deal with logistical issues.  But now he moved in with me and things are moving forward.  

    Post # 60
    Member
    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I’m 30, he’s 33. We dated for 1 year and will have an 8 month engagement. 

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