(Closed) For those who met their FI/DH after the age of 30

posted 4 years ago in 30 Something
  • poll: How long where you dating before getting engaged?
    less than a year : (53 votes)
    21 %
    1-2 years : (104 votes)
    42 %
    2-5 years : (73 votes)
    29 %
    Longer than 5 years : (18 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 61
    Member
    22 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    We met March 4, 2017 (at a wedding!), our first date was March 24, 2017, he proposed July 24, 2017 and we’re getting married March 24, 2018, one year from our first date.  He is 45, I am 34 and we were both previously married.  When you know, you know!

    Post # 62
    Member
    34 posts
    Newbee

    I am 38, he is 35.  We’ve been together 4 years, living together for 2.  We’re not engaged yet, but I know he does have the ring in his possession, it’s somewhere in the house and so I’m just anxiously awaiting the day, lol!  

    EDIT: Wanted to add that I have a 16 year old daughter, he has no kids, and neither of us want any more kids, so age/time isn’t a factor for us in that regard.  

    Post # 63
    Member
    889 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I didn’t read all of the responses but as a woman in your 30s who wants to have children, you don’t have any time to waste. I would bring up marriage and kids after 6 months of exclusively dating, and a deadline of getting engaged a year after that. (After dating for 1.5 years) No exceptions. 

    Personally, I started dating my husband on my 30th birthday, and we got married when I was 33. Engaged after 1.5 years of dating, married 1.5 years after that. I never had to have any ultimatium type conversations with him. He was on the same page as me about wanting to get married and start having kids “while we are still young”, so the conversation just flowed naturally. 

    Post # 64
    Member
    1749 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    We met when I was 34, but didn’t start dating until Iowa’s 35, I turned 36 a couple of months aftercare started dating and we jokingly talked about marriage. A month or so after that,  we spoke about it seriously and a month after that he proposed.  We’re having a 5 month long engagement.  Fi turns 39 in a few weeks.   He was married once before,  about 15 years ago.  I’ve never been married before and neither of us have any kids and we want them 

    Post # 65
    Member
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2023

    I’m over 30 but he’s a lot younger. We were together 3 months when he proposed. 

    Post # 66
    Member
    123 posts
    Blushing bee

    We got engaged 1 year after our first date. Will get married on the 2nd anniversary of our first date. I’m 36 and he’s almost 45. We were both married before,  we both married very young the first time around. 

    Post # 67
    Member
    35 posts
    Newbee

    I’m 33 and he’s 30! We have been dating for 2 years and 1 month and got engaged this past weekend. We moved in together a year into dating and it was the best decision ever. I wanted to make sure we lived together nicely before being engaged, and things have just flowed so wonderfully! We will probably be getting married next year (thinking Sept 2019) so I will be 34 (my bday is in Oct) and he will be 32. I want to start a family but I also don’t want to rush our engagement.

    Post # 68
    Member
    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    We were together for about 9 months when we got engaged, both at the age of 32.  But we had been in the same friend group for three or four years at that point, so we knew each other pretty well.  Once I broke up with my ex-bf (of five years), FH and I suddenly clicked and then it was on.  He has been the one driving the engagement/moving in/getting married/buying a house/having babies stuff, which all our friends find hilarious because he was definitely one of the bigger partiers in our friend group and wasn’t much of a relationship guy.  We are amazing together, but I do think that a big part of it is that he is independently very ready to settle down.  Something clicked for him in his brain and I’m just the lucky woman who came along at the right time.  cool

    Post # 69
    Member
    393 posts
    Helper bee

    I was just shy of my 30th when I met him, we dated for 2years before getting engaged. He has children from a previous marriage and is 8 years older than me, I don’t see children happening and that’s fine. Currently house hunting and then wedding 🙂 

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