For those who were trying for a while before getting pregnant…

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
372 posts
Helper bee

marriedbliss :  totally with you on the “it’ll happen when it’s supposed to” thing. 

Like others have said, I didn’t do anything different the cycle we conceived (which was our 10th), but I thought about it a lot, like all previous months. I also temped and charted religiously. So the old wives’tale “it’ll happen when you just relax and stop thinking about it” is not always true.


Post # 17
2794 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It took me years to get pregnant. We tried everything in the book and were due to start IVF. 

The cycle I got pregnant my husband was away for 2 weeks (pretty much from ov day) I didn’t temp / chart / opk (after 2 years I knew my cycle) we didn’t use any special lube and we just had fun goodbye sex. I even hosted a Eurovision party half way through the TWW and got so drunk! I’m talking beer, wine, shots the lot. 

For us the ‘relax it will happen’ thing was true.

OP, please do not take this the wrong way but 4 months is nothing. The majority of couples will get pregnant within a year of trying. Stressing out at this early stage is not helpful. I know it’s hard (been there) and I know it’s horrible hearing smug mothers say ‘relax it will happen’. But seriously – a lot four months in – chill a bit. Learn your cycle then stop charting etc and just have lots of fun sex.

Post # 18
391 posts
Helper bee

We didn’t try for very long – we were kinda just NTNP for 3 months but the month before we conceived when I got a BFN I was a bit sad and told husband that perhaps next month we can not try anymore and skip that month and he said sure. 

Well, we still had unprotected sex and had a more relaxing month, went to a spa that we love and had no time to visit (and I’m convinced that was the day we conceived). Two days before AF was due to arrive I still POA (cause old habits are hard to break) and got another BFN, I made my peace with it and felt that it’s fine, next month we’ll actually try – 2 days later when AF still didn’t arrive and I used my last stick I saw a second line…  

Post # 19
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

We had been trying for about a year, but not very hard really. My period is regular and I had a general idea of when I ovulate, so we’d try to have sex at least once during the “fertile window” if my husband was willing, but that was it. I was getting impatient so I decided to try a more scientific approach. In one cycle all at once, I started temping, OPKs, pregnancy trifecta, checking CM, and had sex 3 days in a row once my OPK was positive. So I basically went from nothing more than having sex when we felt like it, to full on baby making mode. And it worked because I got my BFP on our first real try. I can’t say specifically what worked since it was all new for me, but since most people seem to use temping/opks first, I think the trifecta would be a good thing to try next. It seems like way too many people get BFPs with it for it to be a mere coincidence.

Post # 21
5049 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Just finished my 4th cycle of trying and this time around we tried the Trifecta to Getting Pregnant.  Its too soon to be sure but I feel 99.9% certain I am not pregnant.

Going forward I plan to start temping to get a more accurate understanding of my ovulation.

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