I think it was all good… and all different.
Loved my Uni years and growing into a young woman with my own life, goals and career.
LOVED being Engaged the first time (probably the best year of my life)
Being a Newlywed was great. And we had lots of fun until the first baby came along… those first years as a Newly married couple are filled with great memories.
Birth of babies are AMAZING LIFE CHANGING experiences… never to be forgotten
Youg mom with babies… one word… EXHAUSTING
Honestly I had no energy whatsoever… and going back to work, eqully tiring. Trying to advance a career, make money to keep us all afloat, both Hubby and I were stressed to the max
Once the kiddies were in Elementary School was certainly easier. Infact, they say the middle years are the easiest with kids and I believe it… everyone has a routine, and no major issues. Lots of running around tho for Mom & Dad
Kids going off to Jr High was HUGE. Could really see how much they’d grown up. No babies then.
The curve is harder then too… preteens and teens are a ton more work (emotionally). You really gotta keep tabs on them and be around to know what they are doing, and the gang they are hanging around with etc
So IMO a lot more supervision (albeit in a different sort of way)
High School Graduations were very emotional… as was their leaving home / going off to college… lots of tears… and mopey Mom for a couple of weeks.
Now they are all grown, and on their own, I do still worry about them… but in a different sort of way
When I think of I naturally have “candid” pics in my head…
Their Birth – Bringing them home – going off to Kindergarten – family vacations (camping, fishing, learning to ride a bike) – Or some activity that they enjoyed (swimming, soccer, sleeping in the car home with huge smiles on their faces after a week at summer camp) – going into Jr High – High School Grad – Leaving them at Uni Dorms
These days, with Mr TTR in my life, I am happy that all the kids are doing well… so we can enjoy some precious time together just the two of us (Engagement – Wedding – Honeymoon – being Newlyweds)
But at the same time…
I have to admit, I wish… IF ONLY they’d find great partners… so we could get on with me being a Gramma and getting to enjoy all those great memories over again with another generation !!
So ya, I’d have to vote… POST BABIES.
Because as much as I LOVE my times being Engaged and a Newlywed… they are just short wonderful moments stacked up against what otherwise is 20 years of childhood… that equals out to a lifetime (their’s) of memories each go round (mine)