(Closed) For those with non-traditional wedding ceremony readings: What are you choosing?

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Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We are doing “union” by Robert fulghum. We are having a close friend read it to us right before we exchange vows. It’s the only reading that actually made me tear up (unusual for me).

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Fiance and I aren’t religious and we wanted something that really represented us, so that left most of the traditional readings out.  So, we decided on the first verse and chorus of “Better Together” by Jack Johnson (our song).  I am going to surprise Fiance by having our officiant also read the first verse of “Nothing Else Matters” by Metallica.  It’s a beautiful song to both of us, but it has so much meaning to Fiance and I can’t wait to surprise him with it as one of our readings… he has no idea.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We are religious, but we don’t really attend church that often and I wouldn’t say we’re overly spiritual people. Although we believe in God, the Bible, etc I felt like it would be a little phony to include traditional Biblical readings because I don’t feel it really represents us. We are using the following prayer (kind of long)

Alexandra, please face Michael, and hold his hands, palms up, so  you may see the gift that they are to you.

 

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life. 

 

These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams. 

 

These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too feels his child stir within you.  These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your child for the first time. 

 

These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family.  These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years for a lifetime of happiness. 

 

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy. 

 

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief overwhelm you. 

 

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

 

Michael, please hold Alexandra’s hands, palms up, so that you may see the gift that they are to you. 

 

These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young, and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to love you all the days of her life. 

 

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope each time she tells you that you are to have a child, that together you have created new life.  

 

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.

 

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.  These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving. 

 

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. 

 

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams.  Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

 

 Bless these hands that you see before you this day.  May they always be held by one another. 

 

Give them strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment.  Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. 

 

Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for protection. 

 

May Michael and Alexandra see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide.  Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. 

 

When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship – as they threatened all relationships at one time or another – remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. 

In this way you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. 

 

And if each of you take responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life will be marked by abundance and delight.

In as you have consented together in this ceremony to live in wedlock and have sealed your vows in the presence of family and friends and by the giving of these rings, it gives me great pleasure to pronounce that you are Husband and Wife. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You could read the passage from “The Velveteen Rabbit” where the horse tells the rabbit what being real means. It’s long but touching and a classic.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re going Union and the Apache Wedding Blessing.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re also doing “These Hands”, though a shorter version as well as “Union” by Robert Fulgham.

 

The others we have included (for now) are:

“Marriage Joins Two People In The Circle Of Its Love” by Edmund O’Neill

Blessing for a Marriage By James Dillet Freeman

 

Not a religious ceremony and though we were open to readings more fun/whimsical/humorous, we didn’t find any that were a fit.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’re doing the following:

“A Lovely Love Story” by Edward Monkton

“Maybe” by an Anonymous/Unknown Author

“Marriage Joins Two People in the Circle of Its Love” by Edmund O’Neill 

This poem by Neil Gaiman:

This for you, for both of you,

a small poem of happiness
filled with small glories and little triumphs
a fragile, short cheerful song
filled with hope and all sorts of futures

Because at weddings we imagine the future
Because it’s all about “what happened next?”
all the work and negotiation and building and talk
that makes even the tiniest happily ever after
something to be proud of for a wee forever

This is a small thought for both of you
like a feather or a prayer,
a wish of trust and love and hope
and fine brave hearts and true.

Like a tower, or a house made all of bones and dreams
and tomorrows and tomorrows and tomorrows.

Also, this site is awesome and has great suggestions:

http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/silly-wedding-readings

 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I shared this on another board about non-religious readings:

We haven’t quite figured out what our readings will be yet but know that my 9 year-old nephew will be reading at least one (I’m thinking we’ll have two). That being so, I want to find something that is short, sweet and not too wordy. So far, my favorite is this quote by Ray Bradbury:

“I wish you a wrestling match with your creative muse that will last a lifetime. I wish craziness and foolishness and madness upon you. May you live with hysteria, and out of it make fine stories… which finally means, may you be in love every day for the next 20,000 days, and out of that love, remake a world.” -Ray Bradbury

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

We used this one but changed the two lines about the bathroom and the bedroom Surprised

 

The Relationship Promise by Luke Wright

I promise, my darling, to be your best friendto settle the quarrels before the day endsto teach you new things and learn in returnhalve debts, colds and baths, and share laughs and concerns.

I promise, my love, to be silly with youto giggle in restaurants and cinema queuesthe romance and hum-drum all blended to blissa life battle-plan that’s sealed with a kiss. From school runs and house work to sweet pillow talkfrom mortgage repayments to long country walksa cuppa in bed when the morning beginsand then when it’s over, I’ll pour you a gin.

I promise I’ll seek to avoid nasty schismsI know that at times we’ll need two televisionsI love you so much that whenever we fightI’ll learn to repeat: I was wrong, you were right.

I’ll cook for you darling, that’s what love’s abouta meal made from scratch is worth one hundred outI’ll shield you from worries that swing overheadI promise I’ll try to be awesome in bed.

I promise, my darling, I’ll give you your spacewhen you’re on the loo, dear, I’ll spare you my facebut know that I’ll be there when your spirit sinksto match you for messiness, cuddles and drinks.

I love you, my darling, so let’s live togetherstack days into decades to make our forever.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

These were ours

 

The Promise of Marriage by Bettie Meeks 

Marriage is a promise of companionship, of having someone to share all of lifes experiences. 

Marriage does not promise that there will not be any rough times, just the assurance that there will always be someone who cares and will help you though to better times. 

Marriage does not promise eternal romance, just eternal love and commitment.  Marriage cannot prevent disappointments, disillusionment, or grief, but it can offer hope, acceptance, and comfort. 

Marriage can’t protect you from making individual choices or shelter you from the world, but it will help to reassure you that there is someone by your side who truly cares, when the world hurts you and makes you feel vulnerable, marriage offers the promise that there will be someone waiting to listen, to console, to inspire. 

Marriage is the joining of two people who share the promise that only marriage can make… to share the sunshine and the shadows, and to experience a richer, more fulfilling life because of it.

The Hands Ceremony – (we took out the kids part and altered it a bit)

Star & Trevor, Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

 

Calvin and Hobbes

Calvin: Hobbes, What’s it like to fall in love?
Hobbes: Well… say the object of your affection walks by…
Calvin: Yeah?
Hobbes: First, your heart falls into your stomach and splashes your innards. All the moisture makes you sweat profusely. This condensation shorts the circuits to your brain and you get all woozy. When your brain burns out altogether, your mouth disengages and you babble like a cretin until she leaves.
Calvin: THAT’S LOVE?!?
Hobbes: Medically speaking.
Calvin: Heck, that happened to me once, but I figured it was cooties!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m spiritual, but not relegious. We based out vows on Marianne Williamson’s vows. The link below has most of it, but includes some addtional Christian things that aren’t apart of the original (but the only thing I could find online). My favorite part was:

 

__________________ (her name), ________________ (his name), is God’s gift to you, but he is not a gift for you alone. It is God’s will that

in your love, this man might find within himself a greater sense of who he is meant to be. You are asked by God to see the good in this man, to accept him for who he is and who he shall be, that thus he might be healed and made strong. In this way, God’s purpose shall be accomplished in this relationship. May this man find a glimpse of the kingdom of heaven through the love that you will share.

And so it is with you also, __________________ (his name), that although __________________ (her name) is God’s gift to you, she is not a gift intended for you alone. You are asked by God to so love this woman, that in your love she might find herself as God has created her, so beautiful and strong and brave and true, that the entire world might be blessed by the presence of a woman who so shines. May she relax in your arms as she has never relaxed before. May she know, from now on, that there is one on whose love she can depend forever. 


http://www.aspenchapel.org/files/wedding-ceremony-of-marriage.pdf 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsWBS:  Same here! Only using the second half of The Union. Both readings really spoke to me while writing our ceremony  🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@iheartmarshall:  OMG I LOVE the Metallica idea! I reread the lyrics and they are awesome for us as well. I might have to steal your surprise idea and make my own surprise. 🙂

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