(Closed) For VIRGIN brides…. Honeymoon

posted 9 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We waited until our wedding night too, and just like you, I was nervous and my now-husband was not!  The first time did not hurt that bad, but the second time was really uncomfortable for me (I think this may also have to do with the second time lasting a lot longer haha).  The best advice I can give you is to buy some lube.  I was so embarassed and worried that he would think it was weird (or that I was trying to be kinky or something), but it makes things SO much easier for the first few times.  Be sure to take your time too; it takes girls longer than guys to get aroused, and it’s going to be less comfortable the less aroused you are.  

Also, waiting = totally worth it!

Post # 18
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would give you personal advice, but I’m in the same position so I’ve got none haha.

My cousin just got married last Saturday and gave me this advice:

– Be open and honest. Communicate even if you feel stupid – you’re spending the rest of your life with this man so now is no time to be shy.

– It’s okay to ‘layer’ lingerie. In otherwords, if you don’t feel comfortable being naked right away, put a nighty over top of a bra/pantie and work your way down.

– If it’s in the budget, get a jacuzzi suite for the first little bit. Apparently it was really nice to be able to be naked without actually being all over the place just so you can get used to it.

Hopefully that counts. My personal suggestion is just to let him know that he can’t jump the gun and that you’d better make out for a bit. That always gets me going haha.

Post # 19
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

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@ceamoste: Good suggestions but I would not suggest having sex in the jacuzzi.

Just try not to get too worried about it before it happens.  Take it slowly, I’m sure you are going to enjoy being with him.  Just take it slowly, use lots of lube and make sure that if you tell him stop that he does.  It took us a while to finish with sex, at first it was too uncomfortable to do much more than just sit there and rotate around a bit.

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh man I don’t remember much from my 1st time cause It was a while ago but I do remember the pain felt kind of like a burning sensation? It wasn’t too bad but it didn’t go away until maybe the 3rd time? My mom said it was because I never even used a tampon lol. It wasn’t THAT bad though… worth it in the long run 😉 As long as you stay relaxed you’ll be fine… tense up and it might not feel so good. Practice makes perfect and you’ll learn quick what each other likes. Remember to have fun!

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You should make out for as long as possible and really enjoy eachother. I don’t know how much you have looked into it, or how far you guys have gone, but this is referred to as foreplay.

Yep, lots of that and you should be ok.

Post # 28
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@MuchGreater: Hm maybe not burning burning… it felt like when you cut yourself and it stings? It;s hard to explain. lol. It’s really not all that horrible… but I will say this… My 1st was a bit on the larger side so that didn’t help… smaller fit more comfortably with my small frame and my Fiance now is larger as well so it was very uncomfortable at first all over again. Size makes a difference. My arms and legs go numb sometimes… lol. I think it’s neat!

Post # 29
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5992 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

foreplay, foreplay, foreplay and dont rush – you dont have to have sex to orgasim and there is plenty of time to get to all the messy stuff so enjoy, make out and tease a little

take care of your body – you dont want to get a UTI (i wouldnt wish that on my worse enemy) so stock up on cranberry juice and see whats available at your drugstore for just in case. im in australia so we can buy off the shelf stuff to mix in water and drink, i dont know what they have in the US but for vacations i always pack them for just in case

and remember to laugh – its all good, you are loved and safe so everything will happen in time

edit: oh, and put a towel on the bed for just in case – i was surprised by the blood from my hymen breaking my first time
 

Post # 30
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@MuchGreater: One thing that I might suggest is just getting more comfortable with your own body. Is your fear of using tampons due to a medical issue, or are you just scared of having anything down there? It might be worth your while to get to know your body now, so you are better able to relax on your wedding night.

Post # 31
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Worker bee

I recommend getting a gynecological exam before your honeymoon so you know if there are any problems beforehand and can ask any questions you want 🙂

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