There is nothing like making love with the love of your life. And while neither I or FH are virgins, it’s a completely different feeling than anything else previously.
I was 16 when I lost my virginity. I’m nearly 27 now. I didn’t find it painful at all, I rather enjoyed it (not to orgasm tho), but because the boyfriend that I had had then we had been together a year and fooled around a lot so we were comfortable in front of each other and knew when it was time…. which was on a monday afternoon when we didn’t have school during midterms weeks.
My advice: spend some time with your own body at night or in the shower. you need to be comfortable with your own nakedness before you’re comfortable with it someone elses precence. You don’t have to masterbate (of which there is nothing wrong it, but if you want to save your first sexual experience unti then, hold off), but just touch yourself like you’re running a feather over your body so you can get used to an intimiate touch.
Also, make sure that you stay hydrated and pee before and after (within an hour) of any penetration… will help to keep the UTI at bay. Since all you’ve done is hug, touch eachother in safe places like arms, legs, back, stomach, and then start exploring. Dont’ expect to have an orgasm the first time, you’ll be to preoccupied to really enjoy yourself.
Consider reading an erotic novel, or something in the harlequin romance section to help get you in the mood. Or, get the Joy of Sex to read. It’s a classic sex manual.
Dont wear a thong after and don’t feel ashamed if you bleed or if you need to stop. Use a bit of lube on both of you, go slow, and try missionary (man on top) first. Don’t have distracting music or tv on. It’s okay if you start laughing. Remember to breathe and remember that the first time isn’t the only time. Oh and if you’re not having kids right away, go to your gyno and discuss options to start now.
Sidenote: If you want to try using tampons, get the ones with the plastic applicator and the rounded tip and use the smallest size possible and you shouldn’t have issues. Just only use them when you have your period.
Lastly, sex is awesome and can be a lot of fun. So enjoy yourself 🙂