Post # 1
Let us know engaged and married bees what the most fun part of the waiting was!
This time last year I know I made engagement chicken. Yep. I sure did that and used the Glamour mag recipe! We had gotten super close during all of 2009 and we just felt “right”. I love the glowy feel and how our lives were truly coming together.
While I was eager to actually hear the words “will you marry me?”, the whole year was full of so much for us, and we’d made so many memories, including a long trip to our favorite beach, which was also our first family vacation together.
Waiting is a wonderful time in a relationship, so long as you know you’re on the same page in your relationship. I call it the “glowy” phase. You know it’s the one special person you’ve waited all your life for, and you’re both just waiting for the perfect moment to say what is in your heart.
Let’s hear your stories about your favorite part of the waiting phase!
Post # 3
I guess my favorite part of the waiting phase is not knowing when and how he will propose. I love the element of surprise.
Also, I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a friend who got married in June and helped her with some of her planning. . .While she had adequate time to plan, some of the wedding decisions felt a bit pressured. That said, I LOVE the fact that I can look at as much wedding “stuff” as I want and not be pressured to choose anything at this point! Half the fun is just looking!!!!
Post # 4
The best part was wondering when/how/where he was going to propose. I kept wondering if the ring was in the house (and searched for it..haha…although I never found it). I wondered if he had asked my parents or if his parents or friends knew about it. The anticipation was fun and exciting! I was a ball of nerves!
Post # 5
I loved when we hadn’t really discussed together of our feelings that we wanted to spend our lives together yet, but when we were attending weddings, we’d talk about how we’d have ours “if” we eventually got married… And then, I LOVED, when I heard him talk with the brother of a bride, who was planning his own Destination Wedding, and D told him how we would be having a Destination Wedding too! I love how our conversations gradually went from hypothetical (if) to tangible (when). It was really exciting to discover together that we were on the same page and how we cherished our relationship.
Post # 6
When I was “waiting”, my favorite part was ring shopping. We picked out my ring together and it was so much fun! Over the course of a few months we went to a bunch of different jewelery stores and tried on a ton of different rings. When I tried on MY ring, we both knew it was the one. He proposed about a month after buying he ring
Post # 7
The first time we had a really good, open talk about getting married. He might as well of proposed right at that moment in time. The first few months after that talk were pretty euphoric!
Ring shopping was also a really great time, but the BEST part?? When I found out he had the ring and it was hiding somewhere in the apartment!!! (One of my family members let it slip… oops!) Thankfully I only knew for about a week before he proposed because I was sooooo giddy, wondering when he was going to pop the question!!
Post # 8
I love ring shopping as a waiting bee. I also like discussing our pending engagement with him, it gives me butterflies every time I talk about it!
Post # 9
My favorite part of pre-engagement was looking at wedding stuff! I know it sounds totally silly now, but I loved looking at $4,000 dresses and venues that were way out of our budget. I was still under the delusion that we were spending a huge amount of money on a small guest list.
Once we got engaged, realization and our huge guest list set in. Then suddenly EVERYTHING and it’s price tag had an enormous weight. LOL.
Post # 10
I think the day we picked out the diamond for my ering and put down the deposit was the highlight of the waiting experience for me. It just felt official after that. Before it was just talk, but once money had changed hands and I had a better idea of what my ring would look like, it became real and exciting. I dreamt about diamonds that night. 😉
Post # 11
We sort of mutually decided we wanted to get married just a couple months into our relationship, but we knew that we couldn’t get engaged for a while because of the cost of the ring and also because people would think we were crazy! We got engaged after about a year of dating, but had already spent several months snuggled up, talking about the future – what our wedding would be like, where we would go on our honeymoon, what our wedding would be like. My mom (who was in on the secret) and I also sent a million emails back and forth with pictures of pretty wedding ideas! By the time we actually got engaged and announced it to everyone, I was so ready to share our joy with everyone, but I was so glad we had that time to be, as Bellenga says, “glowy” together, just the two of us. It was like our exciting little secret that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together – very Romeo and Juliet! I will admit as happy as I was when he proposed, it was bittersweet to share our plans for the future with everyone else!
This was a great thread idea, Bellenga! Way to bring back the happy memories 🙂
Post # 12
@Whimsical.Sprite: I agree. I love the anticipation. My curiosity is killing me, though! I know he was emailing his mom about it last night because I accidentally saw a bit of one of the emails, and I’m so torn because the curious, impatient part of me *really* wants to go and read his emails (which is also a totally wrong thing to do… but doesn’t change that I want to), but the anticipating-it-and-loving-it part of me is screaming that I will do no such thing!
My other favorite part is the dreaming about the future that we do together. Sometimes I’ll just look at him and tell him to tell me something about our future, or he’ll do the same to me, and then we’ll spend an hour telling each other about our future children or the trips we’re going to take or the house we’re going to have. It’s wonderful.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
While waiting, I loved when our moms would have these private convos with me about the wedding. They knew it wasn’t time and “forbidden” but they were just as excited as me. It was a really wonderful time.
Post # 14
I agree with TinyTina that the best parts of the waiting process is the excitement when you can tell things are moving in the right direction, I was in a LDR and I remember jumping (literally jumping) all over my room after we hung up the phone because he told me he wanted us to go look at rings the next time we saw each other… funny because I reacted super cool and calm to him, like “oh that sounds like a good idea, that way you’ll know what I like…” as if he had asked me to go shop for groceries lol….
And it was that very same way the first time we talked about how we wanted to marry each other in the future, or the time he told me it would happen in 2010… all those days were full with an excitement and euphoria!!
But of course, feeling safe and stable after getting engaged is a very good feeling too. Waiting is hard, that’s the reality, and I don’t think you can appreciate the nice things that come with it until you’re engaged.