Post # 31
We briefly considered eloping, but really wanted to share the day with our families. We had a small morning wedding and served a buffet breakfast after the ceremony. Everything was wrapped up by 11:30, and we left for our honeymoon that afternoon. We made great memories with our family, took amazing morning sunligh photos, and skipped paying for some expensive wedding costs normally associated with an evening reception. Our small morning wedding was a great fit for us.
Post # 32
I really wanted a very small intimate wedding. When we got engaged, I found a place that could hold 20 people comfortably, in a nice garden for the ceremony and I thought we could go to a nice restaurant afterwards. My husband however really wanted a traditional wedding for some reason. I really don’t know why as 2 of his closest friends had court house weddings. But he pretty much said, “this is the only time I plan on getting married and I want a larger affair.” So, we met half way. We had a “small” wedding with 74 people RSVP-ing yes and 70 people in attendance. The reception space could hold 88 people so it was comfortable and the ceremony was on the beach. If I could have had my way, I would have had the small intimate ceremony I wanted (saved me some money and a whole bunch of stress). However, it was nice to see family I had not seen in a couple years due to distance. Plus, the pictures always make me smile.
Post # 33
We had a 35 person wedding. We used the clubhouse at my parent’s place and did a lot of diy. Full price for photography was totally worth it. Everything else we made our bought on sites like tableclothfactory.com. and Amazon. We did get it catered but for 35 people it’s not so bad. The flowers were a mix of silk and Sola wood. I recommend giving yourself some time and getting things together so you can do it cheaper. If you want your bridal moment (and why wouldn’t you) make sure you get it. The botanical garden idea sounds beautiful. We did the ceremony on a waterfront field (not as messy as a beach) in Florida. All it really took was the arches (40$ for a set of 3 on amazon) tulle (super cheap I bought a few bolts from tableclothfactory.com), flowers (silk and Sola wood), folding chairs (which we didn’t pay for since they were in the nearby clubhouse), chair covers (apx1.50 ea online) and a speaker with a microphone (costco $160) which was more than loud enough and did double duty during the speaches and reception music. If you have a friend or family member that lives in a well manicured community that has a clubhouse they rent out (often for free) to residents see if they can’t thelp you out with the venue. Then you can get to decorating. It’s amazing what some christmas lights and cheap tents from amazon did for dining ambiance.
Post # 34
Thank you bees for all of your responses. It really has helped me come to a decision on what I’m going to do. Originally I was planning a small wedding because I had my mother and best friend say they would be devastated if they couldn’t come, however, my mother has never been married and I don’t think she cares for the whole institution of marriage to begin with and would be happy for me regardless and I found out my best friend is already married. She went to the courthouse a year ago and told no one. I don’t know what I was so afraid of. Possibly disappointing people because I’m a people pleaser but you ladies are right, I needed to do what was right for me because it seems like EVERYONE else is concerned with what’s right for them so it’s alright for me to be selfish especially on our day. So with a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders since I didn’t want a big wedding to begin with, we have decided to elope to a small town in the middle of nowhere in with a photographer and videographer to do a ceremony outside in the mountains around the golden hour and then wait a couple hours until the sun goes down and the stars come out to do a romantic photo shoot under the lit up sky where you can see the Milky Way with your naked eye. I’m excited and feel so stress free in comparison to what I was feeling and I feel optimistic that it will be super personal which is exactly the hope I was going for!