Post # 1
Uggh. So, this is essentially a shout-out for moral support. Fiance and I have decided to postpone our wedding for two and a half months. His family in India (where we’re getting married) has a gajillion conflicts with our original date and Fiance just found out he would have to be travelling for work for a whole month just one month after the would-be wedding date and moving in together for the first time.
Fiance had been sooo stressed about everything, and when we finally agreed on moving the wedding date, he sounded totally relieved and actually a little bit excited. That was thrilling because I really want us to enjoy this process (and of course the big day) together.
Still, there’s a part of me that’s pretty sad inside. Has anyone else considered or had to postpone their wedding or give up their special date? Advice, stories, ANYTHING would be great. You can also post stuff to my blog (without having to log in) if you feel like it.
Post # 3
I guess we kinda postponed ours. We originally were going to do it with eight months to plan — after dating for over seven years it seemed silly to have a long engagement. We would have been married either last weekend or the weekend before. But then we decided to change locations to make the planning easier. I’m so glad that we changed our plans! I would have been a wreck trying to pull everything together! I still remember waking up in a panic — I knew nothing about planning a wedding and no one in my close famiy or circle of friends has any experience. Now I still have until next June and a ton of research under my belt. Whew!
Anyway, I guess we postponed it by ten months. Two and a half months is only ten weeks — not too bad. And if he’s relieved it will make the whole thing much more happy and stress-free — not a bad compromise. As long as you don’t have too many things booked for the date, or as long as you can change the date for the things you do, the two of you should be much better off and able to enjoy the experience. After all, you have the rest of your lives to be married, enjoy the engagment while it lasts! It’s so exciting!
Post # 4
i didn’t have to postpone, actually pushed it up from what we were thinking due to school schedules/family conflicts, but just wanted to say hang in there! wedding planning can be really, really stressful, and i know i got to the point where i just wanted to say heck with it all and elope. so good luck with this, you can do it, just focus on the fact that you WILL be getting married, to the one you love… it’s just going to take a bit longer. you can do it!!
Post # 5
we had to do it earlier than we wanted… no i am NOT pregnant… but my parents wanted a "lucky" date. They wanted a good superstitious date, which netiher Fiance nor I care about. We originally wanted to get married May 30th, but it was suppose to be bad luck or some BS like that… so the other dates that we were considering only one in April worked. We wanted to do it as late into May (cause it’s more expensive in June and July) and also I finish my post-doc program at the end of June and we’ll have more time for a honeymoon.
anyways, yeah so we had to pick a date in April which is more likely to rain.
Post # 6
we postponed 8 MONTHS due to school and work schedules. At first I was really sad and we actually lost one of our deposits… we have been dating over 6 years, so such a long engagement is really silly. but the initial disappointment wore off after about 2 weeks and now I am used to saying, "yes, you’re right, it is a long engagement… but we are happy with it and it was for the best" to everyone who asks about the date. haha. really. the time flies and the extra two and a half months may provide you with some good DIY space! i know my extra time has come in handy. although I have gone into spells of feeling sick of all things wedding-related and kinda’ want to just elope and put some good money down on a house! good luck 🙂
Post # 7
We have put ours off six months so we’ll both have graduated from college when we get married. I’m actually pretty happy about moving it back because It means I’ll have a lot of time after graduation to take care of details and won’t have to do it during finals.