Post # 61
Also, the second wedding I was in this past summer was an adults-only wedding. My in-laws were able to come with us and look after our son while we were in the wedding, as my husband was also in the wedding. Is that an option?
Post # 62
That is a David’s Bridal dress, and fortunately for you, there are 2 of the exact same dress with different neckline (see links above). I still think you should be able to add more fabric to cover the back like I posted about above.
But – if you decide to insist on a new dress, I would make sure you are able to show the bride both of these options.
Post # 63
Ok so basically tell this bride if she wants half decent photos that dosent have leaky boobs photo bombing her pics she needs to accommodate you.
Being away from the baby you are going to leak. Even if you pump you will leak. The first few months are the worst until your milk regulates. If she can’t understand that your breasts are going to be heavy and dripping and you need to support them as well as protect the dress from leakage she’s a fluff headed ninny muggins.
At the least have a back panel sewn in. I do like the bolero idea as well. Of course the best option would be a different dress. That neckline you won’t find a bra that’s not going to be visible. It seems totally inconsiderate. She asked you to be a brides maid. Now it’s on her to accommodate you qith a dress option that suits your needs.
Post # 64
These two dresses are in the same family (same mesh bottom and lace top) as the dress the bride chose, so they are easy to mix and match. You can wear a regular bra (with clear straps) or a strapless bra with both these styles. Unfortunately, the dress the bride chose can only have cups sewn in or a sticky bra because the back goes pretty low. I would definitely talk to her about letting you get one of these two dresses.
Post # 65
I can’t believe your friend expects you to leave your nursing baby!
Post # 66
There is no way I would leave an 8 week old baby at home. Would you need to leave the baby for two nights? That’s really not good for an infant or a nursing mom to be separated for that long. Pumping is hard when you’re still trying to establish a nursing relationship.
I would bring the baby and talk to the bride about a different dress. If not, I would stay home.
Post # 67
I’m small chested and even after having my baby, I leaked constantly as I had a very steady supply of milk. Even I could not go out anywhere without wearing a bra. That dress is pretty, but definitely not ideal for a breastfeeding mom two months post-partum! You need support, not just for your breasts but also from your friend the bride!! I would never have left my baby at home for a night if I was breastfeeding. The first three months of breastfeeding are crucial for baby. I think you should have a talk with the bride about this dress and leaving your baby to be in her wedding. She could be a little more understanding of your situation. I probably would bow out of the wedding if it was me.
Post # 68
“Maybe I could get some lace added to the back covering the spot where I could wear a bra?”
That woudl be my suggestion too. No sewn-in cup, much less a stick on , would be anything like as supportive as a proper bra for nursing (and already large) breasts. I’d plan on that and politely but firmly tell the bride you are doing it , and why.
Make sure the lace you get is as close as possible. It could be other fabric too, like the satiny stuff of the belt . I’d fill in the whole cutout not just the bra strap area .
ETA just picked up bride wants you to leave the baby at home! Nope, changed my advice , I would bow out altogether
Post # 69
never mind the dress. Your relationship with your baby and successful breastfeeding journey matters a lot more than being at this wedding.
No children should not exclude babes in arms – very poor etiquette as it’s recognised you’re basically excluding the mother. People do it but it’s not good form.
I appreciate your efforts to take part in the wedding but if you must go, please take your baby with you and ensure you can wear a dress you can bf in and feel comfortable.
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Post # 71
I would love to see how it turned out with the backs swen in!
Post # 72
- withluv– I saw the dress on another bridesmaid who has maybe a small C cup and the back was spread way further apart than it appears in the picture. Even a low back bra would show on the side. I know that I have to try the dress on but I do not feel all the comfortable showing that much back in the first place. I am not exactly the most thin woman and I have large breasts, which will be even bigger come the wedding day so I was just asking around for options.
Thanks everyone for your feedback. I will look at all the links you supplied and the other dresses as well as think about getting a little cover up. I spoke more with the bride today about my concerns and she said that she is open to me having material added to the back, which will allow me to wear a bra with it. She said to just try it on and see what happens because all the other girls really want this dress. As for the issue about not bringing the baby, I think I will tell her that it is very difficult to leave a newborn for that long. Luckly my inlaws are willing to come from out of state to watch the baby that day. I may pay for another hotel room and have them stay at the hotel we are staying at so I can step away if needed to tend to the baby. I do feel bad taking the baby out of his/her familiar atmosphere and hope a crying baby will not wake up any neighbors at the hotel. Just a thought! My biggest fear is putting the dress on the day of the wedding and it not fitting. I appreciate all the support in this thread, many of you understand my concerns!
On a added note, I planned on undoing the top and sliding the top of the dress down to pump, with the added fabric I am not sure if it will still be able to slide down? I guess that is a great question for the seamstress who will have their work cut out for them with this mess
Post # 73
We are still waiting for the dresses to come in. So, no panels sewn in yet. I’ll be honest, I am a little nervous about how it’s going to work out. But, it was the best option for us.
Post # 74
That’s the same dress my maid of honour is wearing! She also has huge boobs. David’s Bridal sewed cups in and she can literally jump up and down in it now!