(Closed) Forced????

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Did you ask him why he felt that way and how he feels about things now?  A more in-depth discussion may help clear some of these feelings up.  Right now you are thinking the worst (because that’s what the mind does)… but I bet together you can get to a more reasonable place 🙂

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

so he said he felt like he was pressured to propose but what about now?  maybe he is feeling overwhelmed by the whole wedding process and needs to talk about it and blurted it out the wrong way

sending hugs and i hope things will seem better with some more time and talking

Post # 6
2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Hmm… Trying to figure this out… this is hard for you, I’m sure! Looking back, do you feel or think at any time that you put extra pressure on him at all? Did you ever bring it up, even jokingly, before he actually proposed? (I personally don’t see the prob in bringing it up once or twice, but that’s just me) If so, maybe that’s what he’s referring to. If you didn’t, and you were quiet & patient the whole time, I’m inclined to think he’s just stressed & feeling the strain from all the preparation & whatnot & he’s looking for an avenue for his frustration. Which if that is the case, should NOT be you. Hopefully he’s not just spewing out random crap because he’s stressed, but people do tend to do that. I’m as guilty as anyone so I can’t really talk too much on that issue.. Definately sit down & talk to him calmly. Ask him for instances during the course of your relationship that support the idea of the “forced” proposal. If he can’t think of anything, then obviously he’s just venting but clearly not going about it the right way. Let him know how much it hurts your feelings & how you really need to be on the same page right now, 3 months before you wedding! I hope you work it out!!

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