(Closed) Foregoing Father/Daughter Dance

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
10275 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

It won’t be awkward if you don’t do one. Just sit with your wedding party or stand off to the side during the mother-son dance. I really think you are overthinking it.

You can ask a replacement if you want but it’s not necessary. It’s really not a huge deal to skip it.

Post # 3
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

I don’t think you’ll feel awkward at all! As long as those 2 don’t mind being the center of attention for a minute. If you have another relative or friend to dance with you, go for it. If you’re a confident bride grab your mom! It’s 2016 you can dance with anyone who makes you happy or no one at all. A LOT of brides skip the parent dance.

Post # 4
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I think if I was in your situation I would just stand out and enjoy watching my husband dance with the woman that made him the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.


Post # 6
2173 posts
Buzzing bee

There’s so much freedom on this.What do you want to do? That’s really it for making the call.

We nixed both parental dances because I’m not close with my Dad or stepdad and didn’t want the drama. DH thought it would be weird to dance with his mom, so we just danced with each other and called it a day.

That being said, if there’s someone who’s been a strong parental figure for you and you’d like to honor them by having a special dance with him/her, then go for it! If not, grab a glass of champagne and just enjoy their dance!


Post # 8
3803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

It’s fine, don’t sweat the small stuff! Having a million special dances can get kind of boring for the guests anyway. If you do want to do one with a grandparent it would be super cute but otherwise just relax. No one will really notice or it’ll just be a fleeting thought. Far more dramatic things happen at some weddings!!

Post # 9
1894 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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FutureMrsHitBee :  We decided not to do one. My dad is an alcoholic who is constantly trying to get back in my life, but I demand an AA chip first. I did consider Dancing with my Future Father-In-Law or FI’s Grandpa (who is walking me down the asile, the sweet man 🙂 ) but I think it is just best not to do it, for my mental health.

Post # 10
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Do whichever fits you best, but it’s perfectly fine to skip out on it and have the moment for fi just with his mum. We decided only to have a first dance, I couldnt see our mothers wanting to dance with us and my dad passed years ago and his isnt coming. 

Post # 11
1251 posts
Bumble bee

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FutureMrsHitBee :  

My husbands mother died when he was 11. So 15 years later at our wedding he didn’t feel like “replacing” his mother just to do the dance.

You do what you feel comfortable with, if you’d like to dance with you’re grandfather then you do it. But only if that’s something you’d like to do.

His sister in law was adament on doing it with him and he told her no. I had my dance with my father and we just skipped the mother/son dance at my husband’s request. People don’t ask questions, they knew she was passed on because we mentioned it in the wording of our invitations.

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