- 2 years ago
Thanks so much to everyone that replied. Hickory hills, I really appreciate your comment about accepting the apology you are never going to get. I think I have had a script in my head about how things are supposed to be. I don’t think that script is wrong….and in a fair, just world I would get an apology, as I know I deserve one. That said…. I also know that I am never going to get it, so I also don’t waste time and energy thinking about some of these slights.do I get angry for awhile? Sure! But do I let it impact my daily life? A resounding no.
Still, I wonder if letting the anger go equates to actual forgiveness? I don’t know about this. I think it does make me look at the person who hurt me in a different light…. which tells me that I really didn’t let it go.
I am lucky in that the things that have been hurtful to me are nowhere close to the things that have been described in this thread. I am talking about much less damaging behavior….so perhaps I should consider myself really fortunate- which ought to be reason enough to try and get rid of the grudges I hold.