(Closed) Forgo the engagement ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
2325 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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youremyfavorite2016:  I didn’t but I did seriously consider this if I couldn’t find a ring I loved and that fit my ethics.

A gorgeous band just looks so elegant. Gemstones or none.

Post # 3
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We decided not to have an engagement ring, but haven’t selected our bands yet. I’m thinking about something like the one below, but he wants something thicker for him so he hasn’t picked any favorites yet.  We are going to look more in the coming months.

I don’t usually wear rings, and do a lot of things with my hands day to day that would make it hard to wear an engagement ring. They tend to be a lot of money, so for us it makes more sense to spend that money on something that will be used a lot and appreciated, rather than a ring that only comes out for dates and special occasions.  

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Post # 4
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My answer depends so much on why you’re asking. What is going through your head?  Do you not want one, does your SO not want one, do you want one but cant afford what you want, etc (can be so many other options besides these)?

Post # 5
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I have thought about it a lot and when I dont want to wear my original e ring I just wear my inherited 5 stone band and I forget it’s even on. I’m not married yet but even though it’s technically most likely a wedding band I dont really care. As long as I look taken lol I think it’s a great option if you need something that hardly gets in the way. Eventually Ill fully upgrade to one 7 bezel set anniversary style ring and that will be it. Choose what you like, there are no rules

heres my band for reference 


This is the setting style ring I will eventually upgrade to,I’m looking forward to it ๐Ÿ˜‰


Post # 6
54 posts
Worker bee

I have decided to forego the engagement ring too. I don’t want to burden my future husband.  He is trying to look for a new job so we’re not that comfortable financially but we are getting my dream wedding ring ๐Ÿ™‚  It’s going to be a plain gold band (not sure yellow or rose though), solid and heavy comfort fit  around 3-4 mm. Haven’t bought it because we don’t have a date yet. Though I love the look of a single plain band, I also love gemstones so I’m not ruling out any RHRs in the future ๐Ÿ˜€ Btw, I have a silver promise ring that is very precious to me. I think going ringless would depend on each individual. I don’t mind at all not having an engagement ring so I don’t really think about it but I like rings in general so it’s great fun to look at them on the internet. I am not against engagement rings though! It’s all good – whether you want to have one or not ๐Ÿ™‚ There’s no hard and fast rules. Just go with whatever you feel is best.

Here is the kind of wedding band that I want:


Post # 7
3936 posts
Honey bee

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A friend did this because her mom wore a plain band. It’s what she envisioned growing up so she wanted that. Her groom obliged her wishes despite having expected to gift her an e-ring, since that’s what he grew up with. It’s a yg, ~3mm, looks like a comfort fit.

As long as your groom and you are satisfied with whatever marital bling suits you, rock the solo w-band.




Post # 8
1 posts
  • Wedding: February 2017

I ended up just getting a $200 simple gold band from CatBird for my engagement ring..The only reason I regret this is because it is only three months old and already pretty bent up. Honestly, I’d rather have that money for my wedding dress! I’ll be richer later in life and get myself a sparkly something one day ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 9
534 posts
Busy bee

We eloped so I went without a ring at all at first! After we “came out” all I wanted was a simple gold band, I think because all the movies I’ve ever seen (including one of my faves “Father of the Bride”)  all the couple wore plain YG bands. It looked so classically Married to me.

But every anniversary since DH has given me some form of ring in diamonds or various gems. 8 years and counting! My hand is getting heavy lol

95% of the time I wear my simple classic band ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

We decided not to get an engagement ring. The reasons were cultural and financial. I’m American and my husband is Japanese. We live in Japan and there isn’t a strong engagment ring culture. Only about 50% of women get them, and even if they do they don’t wear them after they are married. My husband didn’t even know what an engagement ring was when we started talking about it. Originally I thought I wanted one, but when I thought about it, I decided it wasn’t necessary. Also, we don’t have much money. I thought I’d rather be married sooner rather than wait for my husband to save up for an engagement ring. We settled on a simple diamond wedding band, and he says he will buy me more diamonds in the future when we are more financially stable.


Post # 11
122 posts
Blushing bee

If I could go back and do it again  ( happy with my hubby of nearly 23 years!) I would totally forgo the engagement ring.  So many times it is not even worn for various reasons–dishes, laundry, workout, kids, job etc.   Over the years I have come to realize the wedding band is the true symbol of the marriage and commitment.  I would save the money and skip the engagement ring and put the money toward a classic 5 or 7 stone diamond wedding band ( or whatever band is your dream band). Good luck!

Post # 12
40 posts

I’m planning to have only one band too — we’re going to on use an eternity ring that will look a lot like the ringย 

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koiochaย just posted as an engagement ring, and then will just use the same ring as the wedding band, so it will do double duty. I love the look, so simple and elegant!

Post # 13
5046 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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youremyfavorite2016:  Technically I guess I did the opposite. I just have an engagement ring and no wedding band. I think you can do whatever you like nowadays!

Post # 14
15 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

Before we married I didn’t get an engagement ring. (but it’s coming soon!!) We were already living together and both of us were married previously and had children. I’m terrible about spending money on myself. It makes me feel guilty for some reason. Probably because I have expensive taste..lol. We did look but everything I loved was upwards of 10k. ummm, no.

For the last year I’ve worn a rolling ring that I love. It’s stainless and cost only $16.50. haha..

DH was set on diamond but I am not spending that kind of loot on a ring. Enter moissanite. I’m so excited to be able to have the beautiful diamond look without the price tag!! We just ordered them Saturday as my anniversary present..

I’ll still be wearing my original wedding band as a RHR. Because I do truly love it! He hates that our friends know it’s a cheap ring from the rodeo. Everyone else always thinks that it’s platinum.


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