Forgot bridal shower thank you notes

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I woudl do them seprately. Get your bridal shower ones done ASAP and send them out before starting on the wedding ones. 

Post # 3
2846 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Honestly I would just add the Thank yous for the bridal shower onto the wedding thank you notes. It’s always better late than never in my book but I don’t think there is a reason to have completely separate thank you cards at this point. 

Post # 4
3235 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Better late than never! 

Post # 5
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Where I come from, we don’t do showers but personally, I’d be fine with getting just ONE thank-you. Presumably your friends and family know you’ve been having a rough time, so won’t hold it against you.

Post # 6
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would combine them, rather than sending two cards right after each other.

Post # 7
9052 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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weddingshoeslover24 :  I normally vote for doing them separately, but these people presumably understand about your recent troubles and will be understanding that you were late on the shower notes and combined them. 

Post # 9
1200 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I see no issue with combining them in the same note. I would not side eye it at all. I’m also always a fan of saving trees by not having more paper than necessary.

Post # 10
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

I would do them separately.  I really don’t think you are late getting them out.  It’s only been 5werks since the shower, right? Just do those first and then the wedding ones.

Post # 11
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I would combine them onto one thank you note. It seems redundand to send two separate ones and as someone who sees cards as a waste of trees I wouldn’t see the need for two. 

Sorry to hear of your bad luck and your husbands loss.

Post # 12
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

My birthday comes a couple weeks before Christmas.  I usually combine my thank you’s for them since it’s so close together!  I don’t think combining them in this case is any different – making sure to specify the gifts from both events, like you said earlier.  I also think guests would understand your circumstances as PP have said.  It’s not like the shower was 6 months ago anyway 😌.

I think you’re good within timing, even without all the bad circumstances prior to the wedding.  Three weeks before the wedding for a shower?  I wouldn’t expect a thank you until after the wedding under normal circumstances since it was so close to the wedding, and there are obviously many things to take care of right before, let alone your situation!.  Don’t worry about it!!

Post # 13
338 posts
Helper bee

I would send out bridal shower and wedding thank yous together but make sure to mention both gifts and do it ASAP! 

Post # 14
47450 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would send them separately- shower first, wedding later. If you combine them it may be interpreted that you were too lazy to do the shower notes, so deliberately waited until after the wedding to do them together.

Post # 15
733 posts
Busy bee

I’d just go ahead and send them. Most anyone I know doesn’t even really send thank you notes, they make phone calls or send emails. so getting one at all would be wonderful for most of my friends and family.

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