Post # 1
bees I messed up. I had my bridal shower about 3 weeks before my wedding and I totally forgot to write thank you notes. I just had my wedding two weeks ago and I’m going to start writing thank you notes for that tonight.
Backstory-in the time right before the shower until the wedding my now husband and I had A LOT of really bad luck. A parent dying (expected, but still a blow) issues with our house (ended having to spend ALOT of money unexpectly), issues with our pet, just back luck all around. Therefore writing thank yous completely skipped my mind.
Do I write out separate thank you for shower gifts or can it be combined with wedding thank yous? I’m not sure if it would be strange to send them out after the wedding and at the same time as our wedding thank you notes. Thanks for the help
Post # 2
I woudl do them seprately. Get your bridal shower ones done ASAP and send them out before starting on the wedding ones.
Post # 3
Honestly I would just add the Thank yous for the bridal shower onto the wedding thank you notes. It’s always better late than never in my book but I don’t think there is a reason to have completely separate thank you cards at this point.
Post # 5
Where I come from, we don’t do showers but personally, I’d be fine with getting just ONE thank-you. Presumably your friends and family know you’ve been having a rough time, so won’t hold it against you.
Post # 6
I would combine them, rather than sending two cards right after each other.
Post # 7
I normally vote for doing them separately, but these people presumably understand about your recent troubles and will be understanding that you were late on the shower notes and combined them.
Post # 8
So should I include a thank you for both in the same note? Something like “thank you *insert shower gift here* and *insert wedding gift here* it was so nice to see you at both etc etc”
I’m just not entirely sure how to word everything and if I do separate notes and send them out separately I worry they will both soound awkwardly similar.
Thanks for your responses so far. This is definitely not a situation I expected to be in.
Post # 9
I see no issue with combining them in the same note. I would not side eye it at all. I’m also always a fan of saving trees by not having more paper than necessary.
Post # 10
I would do them separately. I really don’t think you are late getting them out. It’s only been 5werks since the shower, right? Just do those first and then the wedding ones.
Post # 11
I would combine them onto one thank you note. It seems redundand to send two separate ones and as someone who sees cards as a waste of trees I wouldn’t see the need for two.
Sorry to hear of your bad luck and your husbands loss.
Post # 12
My birthday comes a couple weeks before Christmas. I usually combine my thank you’s for them since it’s so close together! I don’t think combining them in this case is any different – making sure to specify the gifts from both events, like you said earlier. I also think guests would understand your circumstances as PP have said. It’s not like the shower was 6 months ago anyway 😌.
I think you’re good within timing, even without all the bad circumstances prior to the wedding. Three weeks before the wedding for a shower? I wouldn’t expect a thank you until after the wedding under normal circumstances since it was so close to the wedding, and there are obviously many things to take care of right before, let alone your situation!. Don’t worry about it!!
Post # 13
I would send out bridal shower and wedding thank yous together but make sure to mention both gifts and do it ASAP!
Post # 14
I would send them separately- shower first, wedding later. If you combine them it may be interpreted that you were too lazy to do the shower notes, so deliberately waited until after the wedding to do them together.
Post # 15
I’d just go ahead and send them. Most anyone I know doesn’t even really send thank you notes, they make phone calls or send emails. so getting one at all would be wonderful for most of my friends and family.