Post # 1
Hey bees, just wondering what you would do in this situation. I invited a few people from work (well my old work, I was there for 5 years, still hang out with these people and actually still work for the same parent company, just a different division, but still in the same building, switched jobs at the end of August).
Anywho, it’s a big company, 100+ people in that division alone. Obviously I can’t invite everyone, so I invited everyone from my old department and anyone I consider myself friends with outside of work.
Well there’s 2 ladies whom we have lunch together and what not, and we spend some time together outside of work, but with other co-workers. They were in my department until the past few months. One of them mentioned something about how she’s sad she didn’t get an invitation and immediately I was like “Oh shoot I probably SHOULD have invited her!” It just didn’t occur to me when I was making the list! We just sent out our invites on the weekend, and so far have only received 2 “nos” (well 2 people we invited guests, they’re coming solo) so it’s not like they’re technically being b-listed, I had room on the guest list before, just since I don’t hang out with them often outside of work (like the few people outside of my department whom I consider friends separate from work) and they weren’t in my department when I created the list I didn’t even think of them!
Would it look bad if I invited them now even though everyone else got their invites in the past couple days? I thought we had caught everyone, went over the list several times, but just missed these 2 ladies (and their significant others).
Post # 3
@futuremrste: I think it is better than not being invited! It sounds like you caught it early enough they wont really notice! If they say anything you can always say something like “yea its weird my mom just got hers in the mail too! Stupid post office!” or if you think theyd know just say you missed a handful of people on your invite list and had to order more but make it sound as if they werent the only ones
Post # 4
Unfortunately I kind of already blew it to be able to do that. Coworker A (whom I hang out with outside of work often and whom I actually know from high school) and Coworker B (one of the ladies whom I forgot to invite) and I all ran into each other in the lunch room and A was all “Oh my god your invitations are gorgeous! Where did you get them from?” And was all wedding excited (he’s really into that kind of stuff). B was all “Oh where’s my invitation?” But kind of joking about it. I felt kind of put on the spot and said something like “Well we unfortunately couldn’t invite everyone as nice as it would have been, A and I hang out all the time outside work” or something like that. It wasn’t until I was driving home that I was all “Why didn’t I invite B? If our wedding had been in June before she switched departments she would have been on my list, and I hang out with her more than C (someone in my department I never hang out with outside of work but felt bad excluding her since I invited everyone else from the department).” Plus like I said it’s not like we’re “full” We have a max capacity of 250 and only invited 240….
Post # 5
I think you should tell her exactly what you said in your last post.
Post # 6
Good advice! That’s what I ended up doing. I hand delivered her invite today and explained everything. She seemed happy to get an invite!
Post # 7
We made a booboo ourselves and forgot to invite my husband’s uncle. Since he travels a lot, he’s not really around like the other siblings of his parents so it just slipped our mind.
We sent him an invite and just made our apologies. He understood but unfortunately couldn’t make it.
I’d give her invite by hand and just explain that with everything going on, it just slipped your mind and she absolutely should have gotten one in the first place. Oversights happen and she’ll either understand or not. Good luck!