Post # 1
Soooo….we have just been notified by a family member that a few of my FI parents’ cousins are upset and may not come to the wedding because their son was not invited and another family members daughter (same age) was. Well…this was a HUGE mistake by us…we forgot to include his name on the outer envelope of the invitation—we did not do the inner envelope. His name is on all of our guest lists etc., we just made an honest mistake and forgot his name when we addressed the outer envelope.
What would you do? I am planning on calling them and speaking to them about the huge mistake/oversight but I do not know how to word it so that it doesn’t seem like we are doing it only because they are upset…we (FI and I) are SICK that this happened and we really want them to attend the wedding.
Thanks for your help!!
Post # 3
Just tell them it was a mistake and that of COURSE he is invited. If they are still obnoxious about it then they are drama queens.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Just call them, be apologetic and be honest. They’ll appreciate your sincerity, I think.
Post # 5
I would call and be honest. If you feel more comfortable you can say that you didn’t double check the invites before they went out and you asked someone else to address them. If they are reasonable people they will understand that this was an honest oversight. I wouldn’t worry.
Post # 6
All you can do is call them and be sincere and tell them you want them all to be there. They will either believe you or they won’t.. 🙁
Post # 7
I say lie and tell them you had a bridesmaid helping you address the envelopes. Tell them that of course he was invited, and it was a total mistake, you are so sorry etc. Hopefully they will understand and get over it.
Post # 8
I agree, call and let them know it was an oversight, and you are very sorry.
Honestly, they probably should have just called and asked if he was able to come, instead of gossiping about it to others. But what’s done is done.
I think it’s something I’d try to smooth over and forget about.
Post # 9
Thanks for your advice! I can only be honest and hope that they accept my apology…I would hope that they would know we would never intentionally not invite him to upset them! Wish me luck!! 🙂
Post # 10
Call and apologize and say he was invited the whole time, but it was an oversight when the envelopes were addressed.
Post # 11
I also think you should call them and apologize and let them know it was a clear oversight. Tell them you obviously want him there and never intended for him not to be invited.
Post # 12
I did almost the same thing… forgot to invite my FI’s aunt! Her husband and her son have the same name, and the son takes care of their house while they’re in Florida, so was all confuzled and only sent one to the son. felt so dumb! Caught it last weekend (five weeks out) so sent an invite with a handwritten note of apology, explaining what happened and saying we hoped they could still come celebrate with us. Haven’t heard back yet, but hope they’ll forgive me. I don’t think they were going to come anyway – they live far away. But I figured handwritten groveling would go a long way to smooth things over.