(Closed) Forgot to invite someone; really upset.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Before you do anything:

did your parents give you a list?  Did you ask them to check over it?

I think skyping to explain the situation is a bit ridiculous honestly.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If she didn’t even realize you had gotten married, gotten word of it during the engagement, or causually heard your wedding was coming up, it doesnt sound like she’s very close to you or the family in general.  I really don’t think it deserves an explaination.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

It sounds like your mom has the issue…. I’d let your mom explain, not you – since she’s the one that’s all worked up about it.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, three of our wedding invites were actually lost in the mail, so that could have happened here.

And, if you’ve only met her once and aren’t close to her, I really don’t see the issue with her not having been invited.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh. Ummm I would skip that conversation. If you haven’t seen this person in 12 years I certainly don’t think you owe her any sort of an explanation. I think you should try to explain that to your mom again. I certainly wouldn’t put myself into an awkward Skype call just to satisfy mom! She didn’t even realize until two months had passed, so why is it all of a sudden a big deal?!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think I’d write a nice note, or let your mom handle it.  I definitely wouldn’t make a conference call about it.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Are you sure you forgot them?  Just because she didn’t get an invitation doesn’t mean you didn’t send one – my sister got her invite three weeks ago, and I sent it last APRIL!  I think it’s kind of ridiculous that your mom is trying to make you Skype and apologize.  Did she tell you to invite them, or look at the guest list?  Send a note.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

skip the skype. Your mom sounds like the only one who is truly upset over this. If she is the one with the problem, then let her do the explaining if it means so much to her. You hardly know this aunt, it shouldn’t be considered a family crisis because she wasn’t invited.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would say that you need to make your mom feel better (if she is the one that is hurt) but ask her if she could be the one to talk to your aunt about it. I think that she will understand once she has some distance, weddings bring out the crazy in people sometimes. I would give your mom sincere aoplogies, mail in invite if she thinks it is important and ask her to handle the explaination since she is obviously closer with her than you are,

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t see a problem with giving them a call / calling them on skype. It’s awkward but I think it’s polite, it seems a lot more heartfelt than just sending a note or an email

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

To appease your mom, could you maybe just send a note/card explaining what happened? Or have your mom do it?You could say something to the effect of:

“Oh Aunt ____, I am so sorry to have excluded you from my wedding. As I am sure you know, the planning of a wedding can often be hectic. Not only was the planning hectic, but there were certain situations with my job that even took precedence over my actual wedding plans. I hope this was not taken as a slight to you or your family. I honestly would have loved for you to be there.” Maybe you could send her a picture?

The ksype thing seems unnecessary as no ones feelings are hurt except apparently your mother’s. I think a note would honestly please everyone in the situation.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i would just say the invite got lost in the mail.

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