Post # 1
I realized that I failed to put stamps on all of my beautiful invitations about 20 minutes after dropping them off at the post office and just about cried.
My my mom came up with the Idea that I should send little cards with notes explaining and including a stamp. I have these all ready to go, at the expense of time, money and embarrassment! My note says “oops! With our busy schedules and planning our wedding, some details are bound to fall through the cracks! Please use this stamp for your rsvp envelope!”
I am not sure if this is overkill, should I just leave it be And not send them?
I have read other posts about the same topic and people say that most people don’t reply by card anyway (which I don’t understand). So, maybe this extra card will help remind guests to send me the rsvp card? I know some people will think this is just silly, but I know it is expected to put a stamp on the envelope and if it is absent they might jump to other conclusions. My fiancé says we are darned if we do, darned if we don’t (and he is the supportive/involved-in-planning kinda guy).
Post # 2
I feel like that would be overkill. Don’t worry though, a stamp is cheap.
Post # 3
I would send the note and postage stamp to people i think will expect it – in our families it would be our older aunties and uncles for example. For everyone else I would leave it.
Post # 4
Beegritte: This seems like a good middle ground. When I read OP’s post, I wavered between thinking it overkill and thinking it would be a thoughtful gesture (knowing that I would also be a little embarrassed if I made this mistake, though I’m sure most guests wouldn’t ultimately care).
OP, how many invitations did you send? Because sending out this little explanation card to everyone could amount to something like an additional $30-50 if you’ve invited a lot of guests! And I think if I received a wedding invitation with no stamp on the RSVP, I probably wouldn’t think much about it, even though I know the host is supposed to include one.
I like the idea of just sending the additional cards with stamps out to guests you know will notice the error. With everyone else you can leave it be, and if it were me I’d probably text a couple of my invited girlfriends, “I’m an idiot, forgot the stamp,” and have a laugh about it.
Post # 5
I’d sent them! Definately! To everyone. Overkill is better than thoughtless.
Post # 6
lndsyknpp: Don’t worry about it, I always buy a nice card and my own stamp to RSVP and I really don’t mind.
Post # 7
It wouldn’t bother me not having a stamp provided but I rarely rsvp by post. I agree with sending to those who expect it is a nice gesture.
Post # 8
It’s overkill. And what you said is right, most people don’t return them, anyway.
Most of the weddings I’ve been invited to, in the last few years, have asked for online responses. My daughter did – through their wedding website. 248 of 250 invited guests responded, by 10 days before their due date, including her then 87 year old grandmother, who’s on the internet every day. No waste – big win!
Post # 9
GreenGables: I sent about 60. I am having my wedding about 300 miles from where I live. My fiancé is from another state, so everyone who is coming is traveling. So I definitely feel it is courteous to include a stamp when the people who are coming are really going out of their way to come. So, I really feel it would be improper if I just let some be.
Post # 10
Do not send a note. I would laugh to be honest if you send a note apologizing for leaving out the stamp.
It wouldn’t even phase me.
Post # 11
Beegritte: a stamp is cheap, true. But, I work in a place that sells stamps, and there are so many confused customers out there who never buy stamps and come to me with “what do I do?” When they need to buy a stamp for whatever reason. With all the online bill pay we have today, some people never use stamps anymore. So I would rather supply them than cause some people Inconvienence.
Post # 12
bibber: I feel like this is true! But I also feel like people would wonder where the stamp was.
Like my hunny said, darned if we do darned if we don’t. :/
Post # 13
lndsyknpp: I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m not sure I’d even think about it if I received an RSVP envelope with no stamp.
Post # 14
It may be overkill, but I would probably do it anyway, if only because it *may* help increase your RSVP response rate. I know that I never have stamps on hand because I only mail something like 3 letters a year — I send more packages than that, but those require a trip to the post office, not just stamps…and I usually send them late because getting to the Post Office is a PITA. If you sent me the stamp, it’s distinctly possible that I would return the RSVP much more quickly (although if you have an online RSVP, I’d be more likely to go that route regardless).
I did remember to put stamps on my RSVP postcards, and yet I’ve received fewer than half back at this point. And they are postcards — literally, all the respondents have to do is check a box (“Happily Accepts” or “Regretfully Declines”) and drop it back in the mail — and yet most have not, although the cut off date is May 29, so they still have plenty of time.
If I were you, I would do everything possible to encourage the quick return of the RSVPs, even if it may be perceived as overkill to some people. The worst thing that would happen is people would laugh at your note, and that’s not such a bad thing. At least it will make your invitation memorable!
Post # 15
Don’t worry about it. It’s not a big deal. People who are too lazy to get their own stamp are probably too lazy to rsvp in the first place.