Post # 1
on facebook, of all places, my FI’s friend posted – hey, just found that rsvp laying in a pile, I forgot to send it! I already booked my flight, so I hope that’s cool!
just… why wouldn’t you take that plane ticket effort and stick it in the mail first. instead of one day after we sent our final number to the caterer.
HAVE PEOPLE NEVER BEEN TO A WEDDING?
Post # 3
LOL they have but maybe none of them have planned one! Most times caterers are ok with increasing the number..more money for them!
Post # 4
Well at least it was only one day late – I am sure they haven’t ordered the food yet!
Post # 5
The caterers generally plan for a couple/few extra just in case. It will be okay-unless you have LOTS of your guests do this.
Post # 6
Don’t most caterers and such plan for about 10% extra. Honestly, if you have a good caterer, they’ll understand the addition to the whole numbers. Also, did you make calls to those you hadn’t heard from? We had to hound some people who didn’t get the RSVP in time to know if they were coming or not. It sounds like it’s a just squeezing them into the mix. Personally, I’d be thrilled that they booked the flight despite missing the RSVP. It means that they really do care about you guys and just had a paper error.
Post # 7
I think the caterer will be alright, but you may want to call others you did not hear from to make sure they haven’t already bought their tickets too!
Post # 8
I think they did a good thing to let you know. I am sure many people would either a) never realize they didnt rsvp and show up or 2) not tell you they forgot because they were embarassed and still show up.
I think your friend did a good thing.
Post # 9
Most caterers can accomodate changes no problem. We had someone rsvp 3 days before the wedding and it still wasn’t a problem. More than anything, I was just happy she could join us!
Post # 10
I think it sounds like an honest mistake. Obviously she’s planning on coming since she bought the plane ticket so likely just thought the RSVP was already sent. I understand it can be frustrating but it won’t be a big deal with the caterers. Also, no offence to you but maybe advice for other brides you should track your RSVP’s and anyone you haven’t received a response from should get a phone call so that you ensure you have the proper numbers before giving a final tally to the caterer.