(Closed) “Forgotten” Money?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 3
596 posts
Busy bee

i think you really need to let you fiance handle this one.  do his parents have a history of going back on their promises?  is it possible that with the economic downturn, they are now unable to afford the full amount but are too embarrassed to say so?  whatever you do, stay out of it and let your fiance do all the talking.  you definitely don’t want to look like the greedy FDIL, that will not bode well for your future relationship with your in-laws.

sorry to hear about your dilemma!  just as a precaution, i wouldn’t count on receiving any money from them, just in case they "forget" again.

Post # 4
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh my goodness I am in the same mess you are! Except his mother offered us money and now 5 months before the wedding she say’s she has no money to help us with. Now his father is also claiming to be broke although, he is going to still contribute. It is very difficult because it was also offered to us and now she completely backed out. We were also counting on that money and now I think I have to cut the menue down to help out with the money that she was suppose to give us. There is nothing we can say or do because you cannot make people give you money that they just don’t have. I really feel for you it is the last thing you and money is the biggest stress factor!

Post # 5
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008


    I’m going to offer you some advice, and I’m not sure if it applies to your situation, but I hope you take it to heart. 

    This is a red flag.  It seems clear to me you were told X amount, and now your in-laws are both having a memory lapse (also known as lying).  Generally, I would say roll with the punches, it’s a bad economy- try to be understanding and not get down.  However, I was married in August and ignored a lot of red flags, one very much like this, and I am now having regrets (even though my husband is wonderful).

     I would sit down and figure out whether or not you want to deal with your in-laws for the rest of your life, and while you’re at it I highly suggest looking at your fiance’s credit report.  I wish someone would have told me this while I was having similar problems with my in-laws.  


  Good luck. 

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