(Closed) Formal BBQ Sit Down Dinner?

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 17
1215 posts
Bumble bee
Post # 19
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No sorry……. BBQ is not “formal”.

BBQ = Extremely Casual.

Post # 20
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’re doing an ‘elegant country’ wedding – so the dinner will be sit down, buffet style, but our menu has BBQ pork, chicken salad, pasta and regular salad, a couple different vegetables, etc for dinner.  Appitizers consist of fruit, veggie, and cheese/cracker trays 🙂

I personally think it’s totally do-able.  Though I’m not one to be weirded out by having picnic-y type foods for an evening reception!

Post # 21
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it’s totally up to you.  A college aquantance had a semi-formal, indoor, evening family style dinner.  They placed the sides in large bowls on each table then each guest chose an entree: BBQ pork sliders or char grilled chicken breast (I know you don’t want chicken, but maybe other people might??).  the sides were apple salad, potato salad, twisted mac and cheese, southern style green beans, and maple cornbread muffins.

Post # 22
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I did the same thing for my wedding in April and everyone loved it because it was so different. We had stations of Mac and Cheese and mash potato bar served in martini glasses, brisket, shrimp, corn bread, chicken quarters, pork.

I think what helps is what it is served in like I did martini glasses or you can use shot glasses, mini things, fancy or funky bowls, etc.

For example: http://www.smartyhadaparty.com/Parfait–Dessert-Dishes-c384.aspx

good luck!

Post # 23
3322 posts
Sugar bee

BBQ is amazing, but anything that you eat with your hands is 100% informal. You can have a range of complexities with BBQ as you can with everything, from frozen hamburg patties to deluxe home made organic sliders with specialties breads and dips. But it not formal. A sit down meal eatem with correct cutlery is formal.

Also if you have to provide Wet Naps to clean up it’s not formal.

I think you have to decide which is more impoprtant BBQ or Formal because you can’t really have people in suits or tuxes and ladies in gowns eating with their fingers and cleaning up with wet wipes.

Post # 25
2 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012


I’m so jealous now, wish I had come across some good ideas months ago. I originally wanted to do burgers and have special sauces to top it (not just mayo and mustard) and add interesting toppings as well (not just pickles and lettuce). But was left out in the dark about what type of sides to do and we are doing all the cooking as well. I was afraid it wouldn’t work out. I hope it works for you!!! I think doing burgers is a great menu and I agree with providing a knife and fork to eat the burger with. Fancy restaurants serve burgers and they are so big you have to use utensils to eat it. The wedding day is for you and your future husband, do what you two want to do. No one else is ever going to remember what you served, only you will.

Post # 26
2437 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@TattooedChick23:  We served bbq chicken,  macaroni and cheese,  southern style green beans,  cornbread (sweet) and salad. Our guests LOVED it. 🙂 DH and i ate pasta we’re vegan. I wanted our guests to have comfort food. I was never a fan of ‘traditional’ wedding food. We toyed with the idea of gourmet burgers, but DH wanted something a little more formal. So, we compromised.  🙂 Before, i was vegan i always dreaded wedding food. Costs a lot and usually isnt great. 

Post # 26
13 posts

I literally am going through this right now. I think that “formal BBQ” is totally doable and you just gave me so much inpiration! Thanks!

Post # 27
5870 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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TattooedChick23: The menu you mentioned is the exact one that the couple who run Young House Love did for their DIY wedding.  Find it here – http://www.younghouselove.com/wedding-album/

It was definetly a more casual affair.

If you want to go BBQ I’d do a buffet with a few differnt items (maybe pulled pork, smoked chicken, and skirt steak).  But I agree with your Mother-In-Law that it’s a more casual way to go.  Not that there is anything wrong with that, just make sure it matches the rest of your event.


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