Post # 1
I’ve finally begun the envelope addressing process and I’m stuck. Our wedding is a formal affair, but I didn’t order inner envelopes for our invitations! (Do I really need them???)
I am now faced with a dilemma–how do I address the envelopes to families? And for couples without children, does the woman’s name need to go on the envelope as well? I’m assuming that for singles that are allowed to bring guests, I can just say that 2 seats have been reserved for them, correct?
One more thing, my sister’s husband is a physician in the army and they have kids. Do I use “Dr. Blah Blah Blah” or use his ranking instead?
My apologies if this was discussed before–I got too lazy to search for a similar post!
Post # 3
yes, inner and outer envelopes are considered formal, but that doesn’t mean you have to have them. more and more people are skipping them in favor of pocketfolds, belly bands, ribbons, and seals.
here’s how i’d address the invites.
couples: mr. and mrs. john smith
families (all children invited): mr. and mrs. john smith and family
single guests w/ plus one: mr. john smith and guest
single guests w/ significant other (always find out name of s.o. if possible): mr. john smith and ms. jane doe
you may also want to note if any of the married women on your guest list have kept their maiden names, or have hyphenated. if they go by their maiden or hypenated names socially, you should address their invites that way. hope this helps!
Post # 4
Here’s one helpful site http://www.wedalert.com/content/articles/address_invitations.asp
Also, the inner and outer envelopes drive me nuts! They originated in a time when the original envelope would arrive beat up, and so a nice inner envelope made mor sense. Now, I just think they’re silly and expensive. One point though, a friend of mine addressed an invite to me and my FH at my parents address. She didn’t have an inner envelope, but put both our names and my dad had a freak out saying that my friends thought we lived together (we don’t!). This would have been one example where an inner envelope to put both our names (and just have mine on the front) would have been more appropriate, but it is the only one I can think of and I certainly didn’t blame the bride. Good luck with your invites.