Formal wedding – Is this dress ok as a guest?

posted 2 months ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is this dress appropriate for a formal wedding?
    Yes. I think it’s fine. : (46 votes)
    68 %
    No. It’s too bridesmaids-ish : (22 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    gatsbymermaid :  It’s totally fine, and you are right that female guests would generally be expected to wear long dresses. I’ve also been to many semi-formal/cocktail weddings where there were some guests in short dresses and some in long dresses.

    Wear what you want! That dress looks great to me 🙂

    Post # 4
    6645 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I think that dress looks really nice. What did the invitation say exactly? Formal? Semi-formal? Black tie? It does look a bit like a bridesmaids dress but if it truly is a formal wedding I think it will be fine.

    Post # 5
    2306 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I agree with a PP that it does look a bit like a bridesmaid dress, but with that said, it’s really pretty.

    Post # 6
    47145 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s fine.

    Post # 7
    827 posts
    Busy bee

    As long as you’re not wearing a similar color to the bridesmaids, I don’t think anyone will mistake that dress for a bridesmaids’ dress. Just check the wedding colors before you decide on your color selection. It’s a really pretty dress! 

    Post # 8
    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    Yeah… it’s a bit bridesmaidy, but not a problem if you. Aren’t wearing the same color. 

    Post # 9
    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I think budget-friendly, not-overly-sexy, summer-friendly, formal dresses in a solid color = bridesmaid dress. Lots of women will be wearing dresses that could be bridemaid attire.  Don’t stress about it! 

    Post # 10
    454 posts
    Helper bee

    i think its fine, but i would try and find out what the bridesmaid dress colours are…i would do a different colour!

    Post # 11
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    gatsbymermaid :  

    I don’t think it is too formal, in fact I think  it is very  pretty . But is is kind of the epitome of a bridesmaid dress .

     Like pps, I advise  you to be sure you know it is not the actual bridesmaid’s colour( or dress ) 

    Post # 12
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    gatsbymermaid :   I think that as is – it looks a little bridesmaid-y.

    But the right accessories and styling (statement necklace or statement earrings, nice heels, hair down) will un-bridesmaid it! 

    Post # 13
    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Very bridesmaidy…maybe choose something a bit more structured?

    Post # 14
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    A bridesmaid dress is simply a dress. There is no design feature that makes it more or less suitable. Many brides try to be considerate to their friends and keep costs down, so many tend by default to have simple lines and less expensive fabric or construction. That doesn’t make them exclusive to bridesmaids.

    Similarly, a solid color doesn’t limit a dress to being worn in a wedding party. In fact, the only justification for having friends pay for their own dresses in the US is the unlikely idea that they might be worn again. 

    If the event is meant to be black tie, the invitation should specifically say so. Otherwise, my own guess is that it is meant to be what we would typically call a semi-formal event and that most guests won’t be in gowns. Some people do use “formal” in this sense, which is both confusing and traditionally inaccurate. 

    Leave a comment

    Find Amazing Vendors