Formal wedding – Is this dress ok as a guest?

posted 6 months ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is this dress appropriate for a formal wedding?
    Yes. I think it’s fine. : (46 votes)
    68 %
    No. It’s too bridesmaids-ish : (22 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

     I voted its okay, if you like it because I’m not familiar with bridemaid dresses. But I’d personally keep looking for a more formal option. 

    Post # 17
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    3050 posts
    Sugar bee

    If the wedding is Black Tie, the dress is underwhelming. 

    Post # 18
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    12132 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    gatsbymermaid : 

    All this confusion could have been prevented if they just said black tie on the invitation!

    I would ignore the advice to check to make sure you are not wearing the wedding colors. That is not a thing and never has been. It adds a brand new level of insanity and expectation to the occasion. 

    Post # 20
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    12132 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    gatsbymermaid :  Black tie is the appropriate and standard terminology for an invitation and indicates a formal “event” and by association the need for formal “attire.”  “Formal” or “formal attire” can mean anything these days, though traditionally speaking it shouldn’t. 

    Post # 21
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    3050 posts
    Sugar bee

    gatsbymermaid :  It does seem that the wedding is Black Tie, as the requirement of a tux is mentioned in the invitation. Even if a dress is long, it doesn’t mean it works for a Black Tie wedding; flimsy fabrics might work against a formal look. Also, a gown does not need sequins or “bling” to be appropriate for a Black Tie event, but the gown does need to be a bit more “extra” to look formal; just as an example of what I mean:

    Post # 22
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    774 posts
    Busy bee

    I just had a black tie wedding and it’s totally fine. You will not be the best / most stylishly dressed there, but you won’t stand out in a negative way either. 

    Bold jewelry would help the look and you should feel quite comfortable in this outfit. 

    Post # 23
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    399 posts
    Helper bee

    Its fine. I was at a black tie wedding and a lot of people were wearing old bridesmaid dresses/even ld prom dresses. If a bride is demanding people wear a long dress to a wedding (black tie style), they cant expect everyone to spend 200-300 on a dress they will wear one night. If you dont already have this, you can look at a ross dress for less/tj maxx (ross has a surprisingly large selection) or get something from rent the runway too. May be cheaper than this dress. 

    Post # 24
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    1280 posts
    Bumble bee

    I find the “Too bridesmaid-y” comment interesting since isn’t that two brides sell the idea of buying a $250 dress, you can eat again and again. 

    The dress is nice and it will fit to the wedding.

    Post # 25
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    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

    I’m a little shocked PPs haven’t mentioned this, but be prepared to receive a cheap looking knock-off and not the actual dress pictured.  I can almost guarantee the photos used by this Amazon seller are stolen from another designer’s website.  So be sure to check the return policy and leave yourself plenty of time to find another dress if needed.  Good luck!!

    And to answer your actual question, I like this dress and I’d wear it to a formal wedding.

     

    ETA: I did a little digging and this same photo is used by many, many Chinese dress shops.  I believe the original designer is Sorella Vita, style #8922 and it retails for around $250.

    https://www.essensedesigns.com/sorella-vita/dresses/8922/

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