(Closed) formally inviting people AFTER regular invites have gone out…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Why didn’t you invite them with the first round of invitations?  I think you’re instinct that they may be offended by a late invite is right.  Do you really have to invite them?  If you do, I would go talk to each of them and say something like “hey, I wanted to invite you, but I didn’t have your address” or something, which might cover up the fact that you didn’t invite them at first. 

For the Dr. and Mrs. one, my preference would be Dr. Hisfirst theirlast and Mrs. Herfirst theirlast, because I think its important to use the woman’s name unless you specifically know she prefers not to use it.  If you are unsure, you run a much greater risk of offending a women by NOT using her name than you do by using it.

Post # 4
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Is there any way to find out their addresses?  Maybe through your HR dept or something? 

Other then that, I think that it’s perfectly fine to hand them out at work.  It’s still a couple of months before your wedding, so it probably won’t seem last minute, and they might not even know/notice that other co-workers got their invite sent to their house and not handed out at work. 


Post # 6
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i dont see anything wrong with it. i just handed two girls from my work their invitations after the fact because i had some extra.

Post # 7
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Usually each county has a property appraisers website.  You can google “MYCOUNTY Property Appraisers Office” and you should get a link.  If they own a house then they are in there.  All you need is a last name. 

Post # 8
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think handing them out would be fine.  They will be thrilled to be invited! 

I was invited this way to a wedding once: the couple had some extra seats they hadn’t counted on, and invited some people from church.  I did not mind being an “afterthought,” I was just happy to be included!

Post # 9
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think if they are close enough to you that you would like for them to be at your wedding they won’t be offended to have an invitation handed to them – especially since you didn’t have their addresses.

They might realize that they weren’t invited in the first round but I think they would probably not be so put off that they wouldn’t attend. Although I think handing them to them with the explaination of “no address” would be better than just leaving them on their desks.

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