Post # 1
Alright. I’m a little stumped. So I know the traditional way is Mr & Mrs John Doe, but I want to include the wife’s name as well (we’re not so traditional). SO does that look like Mr & Mrs John and Jane Doe? I’m fried and over thinking things.
Fiance thinks it’s cute and whimsical to just put people’s first names, ie) John & Jane, 123 Bee St, Beeville USA. I sort of agree because it’s easier, and he’s right in that we don’t call our friends “Hey Mr Doe, hey Mrs Doe!”, and ya, it’s kind of cute. Our invitations are definitely whimiscal. Thoughts?
Here’s our invites, they say (one line per page) One boy, One girl, one elevator, and then we have our main invite page, our map and our RSVP postcard. Our RSVP postcards are made out to be returned to us “The Soon To Be ____s”, fitting the cute and whimsical thing he was talking about.
Post # 3
I say go with first names. It seems to match your personalities and the theme and feel of your wedding. Go for it!
Post # 4
Anyone else want to weigh in? I just don’t want to offend anyone. I think the older folk/my parents neighbours/family I’ll do the more formal way.
Post # 5
Funny, I googled this and your thread and a bunch of others came up. I’m sitting in front of an envelope and my list of addresses wondering the same thing.
We’re having a church wedding but casual outdoor reception, so I think for most people I’m going to address it John and Jane Doe, and for family and friends who I know are more formal I will do Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, like you. No one is going to see anyone’s envelope but their own, so this way I’ll be happy and the formal people will be happy, and my other guests won’t really care either way.
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Post # 7
You can definitely mix it up if you want. My Fiance wants to address them more informally too and I resisted at first, but now I’m on board. I think we’ll use “Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane Doe” type wording for our older guests and keep it to “John and Jane Doe” for our friends who are married and have the same last name. I don’t know if we’ll do just first names and no last names though.