(Closed) Former Best Friends Boyfriend Almost Peed On Me – Invite to wedding?!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

You’ve drifted apart, you’re having what you consider a fairly intimate wedding, you (understandably) don’t like her boyfriend and are stressed about how not to invite him.  You haven’t heard from her in 5 months.  I think the simplest solution to accept that friendships change and come and go throughout life.  This one seems to be ‘going’.  Unless there is more to the story,  I’d probably not invite her and that solves the boyfriend problem.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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maymiamiwedding :  Don’t invite her. LIke you said, you speak to your guests often, you and your former friend have drifted apart. If she hasn’t reached out and neither have you, why bother now? Let it go.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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maymiamiwedding :  I just wouldn’t be inviting them, full stop.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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fascinated :  totaly agree

OP I’m sorry but it sounds like this friendship has come undone. Maybe in time you can rebuild but I wouldn’t invite her or her psychotic boyfriend to your wedding. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I didn’t read this but I liked seeing this post title under “Emotional”

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t send her a save the date …and the make a decsion on the wedding invite closer to the big day. If you guys get close again and her bf is out of the picture maybe you’ll change your mind.

But it sounds like aside from her bf, you’ve been checked out of the friendship for quite some time. And that’s normal! Friendships change as we get older. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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maymiamiwedding :  Doesn’t sound like she is gung-ho about coming to your wedding anyway.  Just don’t invite her. You don’t need that champion she’s with at your big day. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t invite her.  It sounds like your friendship has run it’s course and I’d be afraid he’d show up uninvited.  He obviously doesn’t care much for manners or etiquette.  You don’t need that kind of worry or drama on your wedding day.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Your title says it all. Former best friend. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would not invite her. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I had a few people I was undecided about, so I just didn’t send save the dates. I told people we were sending save the dates to family only, which wasn’t exactly true but no one noticed. And then I made a final decision by the time invites went out. They didn’t have as much notice, but I clearly didn’t care as much that they be there so it worked out. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I had a situation like this, nothing bad really happened leading up to it, we just drifted. I opted to not invite her because I could only imagine it to be really awkward. It was probably the end to our friendship, though, which I knew when I made that decision. If you don’t want her there, don’t invite her. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I say don’t invite her. You’ll waste precious time at your wedding catching up with her since you won’t have talked in probably over a year at that point, when you could be enjoying your time with the people who you are excited to have at your day.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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maymiamiwedding :  Neither her or her disgusting boyfriend would have anything to do with my wedding! I wouldn’t chance her showing up with him despite not being given a +1, and it sounds like your not being fond of him has already strained your friendship anyawys. 

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