(Closed) Former Step-Parent

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think that’s really sad and horrible.  I’m so sorry you are going through this.  I couldn’t imagine what that feels like.  I don’t really have any advice except *HUGS*  Have you thought about going to see a therapist about it?  They may help you delve through your emotions so you can try to move past it.

Post # 4
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576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I can’t totally relate to your story, but my biological father did not want anything to do with me and my sister. He left our lives when we were two, and when my mom met and married my stepdad, he adopted us. I don’t think of him as my stepdad, though, because he raised us from age 2- he is my dad.

It’s hard to feel that kind of rejection, especially because you had such a strong relationship with this man. But try and remember that whatever led him to this decision to not talk with you, it really has nothing to do with you, and I can tell you with completely certainty that one day he will regret it. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but some day. I know that doesn’t heal the hurt, but just know it truly has nothing to do with you- this is his issue, and he’s being selfish.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I’m sending you hugs from Seattle to Bothell 🙂

 

Post # 5
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1129 posts
Bumble bee

wow…

My fiance had a step-father who was in his life from 7-17 as well – but even after some pretty awful issues, his stepdad is still in his life.  We spend holidays trucking between THREE families to see everyone (not including my one fam!) and even though it is hard, I think its great that they are still so close.

In your case, I can’t imagine how hard it would be to feel rejected that way.  Have you considered even for the purpose of catharsis mailing him a letter telling him your fond memories of growing up, etc – and remind him that while it makes you sad he no longer wants to have you in his life, you still love him?

I know it’s not going to change his reaction, but writing and actually mailing that letter might be a way to get some closure.  ((HUGS))

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