(Closed) Foud out something

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: IMO If he has told you he knows when he is going to do it then leave it alone. The more you push or say things about you not knowing how he’s going to do it and what he’s putting his money towards, the more he isn’t going to think you have confidence in him to take care of this special situation. You may need to step back and take a deep breathe.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: Well, unless you have specified that you want a ring that expensive then maybe that should be the point of a conversation. Explaining that you want something X price range and all of that. Maybe he feels like he has to get you something very expensive but if that isn’t what you want then you could easily take some pressure off of him.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Have you thought about moissanite? Maybe that will be an option for you both.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t worry about it at all. If he says that he knows when he is going to do it, then he most definitely has a plan, and that includes paying for and getting the ring. I’m in the same boat as you, my SO has a plan (well most likely anyway), and I watch him go out and spend his money on all sorts of other stuff. Each item he buys makes me think, “Uh, what about the money for my ring?!” Apparently he has savings though that I didn’t even know about, and it would cover the cost of the ring. It’s his money and I have to trust that he knows what he’s doing. They’re big boys and they can handle it! (We hope!!!)

Post # 10
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Honey bee

I don’t know…I would give it time. He’s trying to be responsible by paying off your vacation first. Which sounds like the right thing to do. So you can enjoy vacation without stressing about how you’ll pay for it. And if he just started working again, he probably needs a few months to catch up on bills and things like that. It sounds like he is thinking about a proposal, he just doesnt have the funds to do it yet. So try to be patient. I know it can be hard…I’m going through the same thing!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think as long as he knows how you feel it’s probably best to leave it alone. He is probably also stressing over it and trying to figure out a plan. Don’t let it get between you- instead just focus on loving him and he won’t want to wait another second to be engaged to you. That’s what I did anyway- literally not long after I stopped pestering mine, he realised how much he wanted to propose and scraped together the money as fast as possible. He still hasn’t proposed but he was so excited that he let it spill that he has ordered the ring. Yours may want the whole thing to be a surprise, and it will be really hard to surprise you if you are monitoring the situation if that makes sense.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Anxiouspeanut: In that case you should pretend like you’re not expecting it and maybe it will happen sooner 🙂 Also… if he asks you to go away for the weekend your first thought may be that he shouldn’t be spending the money on that, but one of those weekends away may turn into THE weekend if you know what I mean. One of my friends went away for the weekend with her boyfriend and another couple, but the other couple were really there so that the girl could distract her while the 2 guys set up the proposal. It was a complete surprise.

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