(Closed) Found a dress I love…but I'm not engaged :-(

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@HopefulSim:  Get it anyway! If you’re having a short engagement it will be one less thing to worry about. I have my dress – I bought it when I was still single!

Post # 5
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@HopefulSim:  I bought my dress before I got officially engaged.  It was so worth it.  1 less thing to stress about!

Post # 6
73 posts
Worker bee

@HopefulSim:  That’s tough! I am anticipating a proposal pretty soon now, and we will only have a 4-6 month engagement, and there is sooooo much I feel like I need to be doing NOW! Especially where the dress is concerned. And venue booking. And basically everything.

Let us know if you get it!

Post # 7
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Most people get their dresses a year to 8 months before the wedding.  In fact, when I was shopping in late November for my August wedding, they were telling me I was cutting it close!  So if you know that your engagement will be short, you actually might have to do some of the wedding planning before you’re officially engaged! 

Post # 8
2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@HopefulSim:  what dress is it?? You know you cant make a post about a adress and then not share it Wink

Post # 9
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@HopefulSim:  If that one isn’t available when the time comes, I know I’ll find another awesome one…

I’ll be the odd one out and say don’t get it! If you think you can find another awesome dress when the time is right, you certainly will. Don’t become a victim of dress regret!

Post # 10
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If you guys have a date already and are sort of planning around, then I’d say you’re engaged and you should just go for it. We have booked the venue, the church, and bought the dress all without the ring because of a similar situation – by the time we get the ring, we’ll have a fairly short engagement. Just tell him if you want to start shopping now. If he’s on board with it, no big deal.

Post # 11
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@HopefulSim:  is there a way of buying it and keeping it at the store? Or maybe if you have a friend who won’t think you crazy, you can keep it at her place?

Post # 12
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m going with don’t get it.

Wait until you’re officially engaged, dress shopping is fun and a great part of the whole engagement experience! I found my dress last week and it will take up to 8 weeks to get here, which is plenty of time and I have a 5.5 month engagement.

Post # 13
495 posts
Helper bee

Don’t get it! I’m not superstitious in general, but something about buying a wedding dress before you’ve decided to get married for sure, or gotten engaged, screams, “Bad luck!” to me.

Obviously this is just a gut feeling. A lot of women have mentioned their venue, season, and time of day influencing their final pick, too. I know it did for me.

Any pics of the dress? I’d still like to see it.

Post # 14
21 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

Don’t get it.  If you found one you like now, you will find another later.   Many dresses have similar style and cut to them, but there are certain fabrics and cuts that work better for different seasons.


Would you want to wear the same dress in July that you would wear in December?  Do you know if you are having an indoor or outdoor ceremony?  What if you had your heart set on a date and venue, but come to find out its not available until a completely different season?  Most of those things aren’t known until you’re engaged, find an available venue, and set a date.  This is one of the many reasons to wait.


Some dresses can take a long time to come in, but not all.  Bridal salons like to scare you with a time or order cut off to make a sale.  I ended up buying a sample and walked out of the salon the same day.  You could end up doing the same. 

Post # 15
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You should get it if you know you are getting married! We picked a date and a venue before we were engaged!

Post # 16
4528 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’d wait since you’re getting engaged soon and the style will most likely still be available 

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