Post # 1
We have been looking for a house and finally found the perfect one. I checked everything (I thought), and it seemed absolutely perfect from price point, close shopping, great schools, low property taxes, great yard and house, etc. We had a house get away from us last week because we didn’t act fast enough so we put in an offer as soon as we were sure we wanted the house.
I had several things on my list today to check and the sex offender registry was one of them. I didn’t think there would be anything to worry about because it’s a rural area and just less of a chance in general for one to be close by because there are less people. I was wrong.
There is a 63 year old man less than 2 minutes down the road who is a registered sex offender. He runs a computer business out of his home. I searched news articles and found that he molested 3 young children of someone who felt he was a trusted family friend. He denied all charges. I have three kids, the youngest two are 5 and 1.
Would you pull your offer? We are surrounded by woods and have a long driveway. It’s not like right next door. But it caught me off guard and I do feel uneasy. I realize that they are everywhere and one offense doesn’t necessarily mean a reoffense, but still. I’d like some other opinions. How close is too close for registered sex offenders when you have small kids?
Post # 2
They’re building the elementary school my daughter will go to directly across the street from a sex offender.
My take on this is it’s good to know where to be cautious and who to be cautious of but likely the people you need to worry about are not registered because they haven’t been caught yet.
Post # 3
That’s kind of my thinking too. I told my sister and she totally flipped out and thought I should pull the offer so I was wondering if I was underreacting.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t pull the offer. Just make sure your kids aren’t ever with him. No need to be neighborly with him.
Post # 5
I can’t see that your children will ever cross paths with this man if they stay within the boundaries of your property. They can be taught that he is a bad man and to be avoided. I would take the risk
Post # 6
I just checked my address on the government website, and there are 37 people in a 3 miles radius. – oh my! Given, I live in a pretty condensed area. I would still buy a home in my neighborhood if I could afford it. It is good to know where he lives, but the fact is, you need to be careful around all people…because people suck.
Post # 7
I mean, you can check out other house options if you like or if you have anymore. However, chances are there will be a sex offender living close by anywhere. The positive thing about this is it’s good info to know first hand.
Post # 8
I would buy the house because you can’t control where other people live. You could pass on this house, find another one that’s “safer” per an online database, and have a registered sex offender move in directly next door the day after you close.
Post # 9
I always think it’s good to be aware of your surroundings. With that said, you could find the perfect house that checked all the boxes, close on it, move in… only to have a sex offender move in next to you weeks later. If that happened, would you sell your house (assuming you could)? If the answer is no, then I don’t see why you shouldn’t move forward with this house.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
When I was in high school, we learned that a neighbor in our cul-de-sac had been using his son’s pictures to catfish underaged girls online, which led to meet ups and other things that he ended up getting in trouble for. He also owned a lawn mowing business and my family was one of his clients before he got arrested and we all learned about it. While we were creeped out when the truth came out, he never had access to myself or my sisters or baby niece to really be a threat to us. So I think that knowing who and where the offenders are is the first step in keeping your children safe, and I wouldn’t think twice about pursuing this house. None of us up and moved when the truth came out, but eventually he did. Best of luck to you!
Post # 11
I would buy it and just make it clear to your kids that they should avoid this guy. Don’t be neighborly with him and keep your distance.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t be concerned. I’d be more concerned with trusted family members or family friends, as in the case of this offender those are the people who are usually the ones abusing children not random strangers.
Post # 13
I think you’d be eliminating a lot of houses if this was a dealbreaker. I agree with above posters that those not on the registery and people you know are actually much more of a threat. Just keep your kids away.
Post # 14
We live right by a high school, and there is still a sex offender that recently moved into our neighborhood (he was released from prison and is living with a family here). Just a few months ago, my in laws next door neighbors let a sex offender who was recently released from prison move in with them, and they’ve been living in that house for over 30 years.
I wouldn’t pull the offer. I don’t think it’s possible to find a home that isn’t somewhat close to a sex offender (as awful as that is), but even if you did, there’s no guarantee one wouldn’t move into your neighborhood.
Post # 15
There are sex offenders everywhere. Every house you find will most likely have one within walking distance. Not to freak you out but I’m honestly more concerned with all the sex offenders who aren’t on the registry.