(Closed) Found box of FI's ex love letters and cards. Read em?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Does your Fiance know that you found them? Would he be ok with you reading them?

I’d probably read them after I asked Darling Husband and he was fine with it.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

no no no! But (since I’m guessing he’s out) ask him to get rid of them when he gets home, or at least go through them  and only keep e.g. a few photos.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Don’t look!  I know it’s so tempting… but don’t!!  It will only make you sad and angry, but they are in the past and they mean nothing now!  Get out of the house?!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Do not open that box, it can only lead to trouble.  Put it away and forget you ever saw it, what’s in there has nothing to do with you.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@MrsSanchizel:  I do…it’s a box of artifacts from a dead relationship, to him it’s as significant as a box of dried leaves.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Leave it. Just leave it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ok.  As someone who has done this before…DON’T DO IT! It’s emotionally masochistic! I would ask him to get rid of them, though. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

don’t it won’t be anything good.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Nona99:  +10000

These letters are irrelevant now, and reading them would leave unnecessary feelings reeling in your mind. You have no need to feel miserable, you deserve to feel happy in the present moment. YOU are the person who matters to him now, not her. If you want to, you could tell him you found the letters and to get rid of them. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. *hugs*

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@MrsSanchizel:  Don’t be upset, it’s ok!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

All of the things from his ex I either threw away or put in this trunk that is shoved far out of site in a closet. As tempted as I was, I never looked at any of it. 

Once I had to clean out his computer to sell, and I found gross pictures of a girl he dated. Ugh! Delete delete delete!!!! 

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