(Closed) Found box of FI's ex love letters and cards. Read em?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 92
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

No, do not read them until you asked him. I now its your fiance, but this is his personal property from an ex-lover, they are private unless he is ok with you reading them. Plus you might end up getting jealous, its like opeing pandora’s box.

Post # 93
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@Snow00774:  You are 100% wrong, and have major security issues. Wow!

Post # 94
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I understand. I had to clean out a house that him and his ex shared even though she had moved out 9 months prior to me coming into the picture. His ex is the only person I feel threated about because he loved her before. (Which is silly because I too was married before.) So I saw the wedding album, other pictures, etc. I still bugs me that she has a few pictures of him on her facebook. 

I am thinking that your husband said those things to his ex wife as closure for the relationship. There are many emotions that one goes through when filing for divorce. I too had sentimental feelings even though we had lived separately over 5 years and I was very much in love with my current husband. Think of it as just closure…nothing more.

Post # 96
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@Nona99:  Cannot agree with you more!

Post # 97
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Glad you guys resolved it! 🙂 

Post # 98
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@MrsWBS:  Ok, prom pictures or birthday pictures, aside.. I was under the impression that these pictures she found were documenting the relationship, not just his life in general.  Plus, I think it also depends on how serious the relationship was. 

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@MrsSanchizel:  SO glad that was resolved!  🙂

Post # 99
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsSanchizel:  I would tell your Fiance you found them. Perhaps he will share them but otherwise he may want you to just let it go. I saved all my old letters and such and recently was organizing and found them. Though I let Fi read a few I am not saving them for him or for me for that matter. One day I may burn them or perhaps one of my children will take them or whatever. The thing is that the relationships in past letters are just that, the past. You can’t change the future if you live in the past and reading those letters can cause you to do so

Post # 100
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Blushing bee

 You control the next few hours of your night; make a good choice by throwing them out and feel good about it. Or feel pretty lame and down cuz you read a bunch of old love letters?

 

 

Post # 101
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would ask your SO to get rid of the letters if they upset you, but not read them.

I guess it depends on why their relationship ended.

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