(Closed) Found my dress!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I agree with PP’s. It’s more for a 20 year old. And the top looks like cheap lingerie.

Post # 17
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’m sure you would look very flattering in anything because you have a great body, but the taste level is 2 thumbs down for me. It looks very outdated as well. I’m sure your family and bridal party want you to look your best on your special day, so I would take what they say into consideration.

Post # 18
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Do YOU love it??? Yes? Then rock the hell out of that dress Mama. Age ain’t nothin but a number and it’s your party. People are going to have something to say no matter what you do, might as well do what you want.

Remember there are certain designers and styles that tend to be a fave on these boards.
Most of the bee (that saw it), didn’t like my first dress pick. Looking back I should have expected that. I let it eat at me and ultimately chose a different dress. I convinced myself my Fiance was gonna hate that dress too. I love my new dress and it fits my venue so I wouldn’t say I regret asking, but just take that in to consideration. Had I never asked on here, I would have been married in a giant pile of ruffles that swallowed me whole. And would have felt beautiful. And I would have been as happy as could be. 

Post # 19
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I think the corset fits poorly above all else and doesn’t flatter you in the right areas. It doesn’t look classy to me either 

Post # 20
519 posts
Busy bee

I think the dress is not appropriate because the dress itself is not good. I can tell that you want something fun, sexy, and something different! You can definitely get that look with something else that will ELEVATE how you look and show what you love.

If you’re looking to do a corset top with some texture for the skirt, take a look at these separates from BHLDN (for example).

http://www.bhldn.com/bride-bridal-separates/maryna-corset-sade-skirt This corset which is similar to what you liked.

http://www.bhldn.com/bride-bridal-separates/lowell-skirt/productoptionids/fbcaeb8b-b90b-4e9a-9313-32da085940dd This skirt which is soft but has some “bounce” and playfulness.

You want to balance the top and skirt out.

Here were some other things I saw and thought you might like:




Post # 21
876 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

This is totally different than your dress, but I think something like this would be STUNNING on you. Did you try any different styles on?

Post # 22
7990 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

IMO, the dress is cheap looking and not classy. I would discourage a 20 year old from wearing it, and I wouldn’t let my DD wear it to prom, so it has nothing to do with age. You have a great figure, but this dress does not flatter it. Again, it isn’t about “age appropriate” because I think this dress would be unflattering for anyone. You can do so much better.

Post # 23
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I really hate it, the shape doesn’t suit you and you look to have a lovely figure but it squished you in the wrong places and looks boxy, the material looks cheap and plasticity, the skirt looks like fancy dress. It’s not about age, I think you pull it off as well as anyone of any age, I just REALLY dislike the dress. Sorry. I’m not meaning to be harsh, YOU look lovely. 

Post # 24
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

View original reply
a2b2c123 :  the most important thing to remember is as the bride this day is about you (and your groom of course). You need to do what you feel makes you feel most special and beautiful. People will always have their opinions, but ultimately if their opinion is totally against what you feel and you choose to change your mind based on that you may regret it! I cant help but feel you would look absolutely amazing in a heavily beaded cowl back dress like this


Post # 25
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

View original reply
a2b2c123 :  Guess I’m going against the majority here, I guess I have different taste…I love it!!!! I think it looks great on you, I like the high/low and age appropriate can bite my (insert whatever word you want here).

If you love it, and if it’s what YOU want to wear, do so!!!!  😁

Post # 26
868 posts
Busy bee

Unlike PP, I do LOVE hi-lo dresses, and I think they can be flattering on any age! Show those legs! Unfortunately the ones I love are super couture and way outside any sane person’s budget

(like this one by Ashi Studio)

But the dress you have on in the image has a bodice/skirt combo that might not be the best dress for you. Even though I love this style, I’m not sure this particular dress is the best quality. Have you considered other hi-lo options like these ones? Because I would say yes to any of these! 


Or, instead of hi-lo you could consider a slit instead? I had a friend who wore a gown with a slit and it looked very classy on her! 

Post # 27
4813 posts
Honey bee

I agree with your family.

If it makes you feel better, I don’t think that dress would look good on anyone.  The fabric and construction look very cheap and dated, making it look more homemade cosplay than wedding day.  If you like that style of dress (which isn’t my personal preference, but I will concede that there could be nice ones out there), you could do a lot better. 


ETA:  Google image search of hi lo wedding dresses does in fact reveal there are plenty of cute, well-constructed ones out there.  I still wouldn’t personally wear them, but they are cute.  I would keep looking and pass on this particular one.

Post # 28
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t hate it, but it’s not my cup of tea.  It seems ill-fitting around your armpits, though, but may just be laced too tight.

Post # 29
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I think you could rock a dress similar… I think that particular one is just not as well made to show off your figure! Also I think people care too much what is age appropriate. There are no rules, you make your own rules. I understand when older ladies are trying way to hard to look younger, but you arent doing that. You clearly have a fun and confident style and i think you should do you and not worry about whatever those other people are saying. I think this dress is more along the lines of what would flatter you better. But it is from lis simons 2014 collection…its called the farrah

Post # 30
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Have you thought about wearing this at your reception? Looks like a fun dress to dance in! 

The topic ‘Found my dress!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors