Post # 1
I found my dress. I’m certain of it. It’s a David’s Bridal dress, and it’s waaay under my budget, and I’m not in love with the bead work on it, but still, I’m in love. I haven’t bought it, yet, but I really want to. My wedding is in just under a year. I’m having a pretty laid back summer workwise, but after a long road trip next month I’m starting an intensive training program that will last for 12 months. I’m trying to nail down lots of details, or at least get close to nailing them down, BEFORE my training program starts.
So, I wanna buy the dress… my parents are paying for it, just need to put that out there… my mom lives in IA and I’m in CA, so she’s seen pics of me in it, but she hasn’t seen it in person (I’m seeing her on the upcoming road trip during which we’re going to stop at a David’s so she can see it on me). My sister got married a few years ago and got a Maggie Sottero dress, so she spent significantly more than this DB dress, but didn’t spend thousands on it. I think my mom is hesitant to spend so little and I’m not sure why.
Basically, I want to buy the dress, and she’s telling me to wait because “it should be fun.” I’m not really into the whole wedding dress shopping bringing lots of people to the salon thing. I’m kinda over it. I just want my dress. Maybe she’ll agree with me once she sees it on me. I’m kinda surprised I found a dress at DB, honestly, I really wasn’t anticipating it. I was looking slightly higher end, but nothing over $1000. *shrugs*
Anyway, guess I just needed to vent, thanks for listening.
Post # 3
You chan check with DB to make sure they won’t be discontinuing your dress anytime soon, and if not then maybe you can just wait until you can try it on with your mother to actually purchase it. In your mind you know that you have found your dress, so you will have that detail nailed down, and you wouldn’t have any fittings this early anyways so the time lapse shouldn’t matter much. Maybe you could humor her and try on one or two others with her at DB as well, in case she is just sad she missed shopping with you? Good luck!
Post # 4
If it’s the right dress, I think it’s okay that you want it! Your mom probably just wants to be part of the experience. 🙂 I’m sure once she sees how much you love it, she’ll understand and sign on the dotted line.
Care to show US some pictures? I love dress photos!
Post # 5
Maybe your mom just wants to spend some time with you and would love to see her beloved daughter in some more of these wonderful dresses out there? Just a thought.
Post # 6
from my experience, moms know the best 🙂 she probably want you to make sure that the DB one you are in love right now IS the one that you’ll be in love no matter how many dresses you try on; she’s looking out for you 🙂 it’s up to you whether to try on more gown or not, but i woudl also suggest you to try on more gowns, just to make sure 🙂
Post # 7
After my 2 experiences at Davids Bridal (not good)…and at private Bridal stores, I would recommend you try some more. I was in a similar situation, I thought I had found one I wanted to buy….but then I went to another store today and found one I liked Even Better! You never know, unless you try some more….the good thing about David’s Bridal is that they are all in the catalogue so you will know which one you tried on…etc…
I am checking out one more store tomorrow, just to see if I find anything else Even Better than what I found today…. Just trying not to limit myself….
Post # 8
@ddw: Here’s a pic just for you!
Post # 9
@starry: Thanks for your perspective. I appreciate it.
Post # 11
It couldn’t hurt to try on a few more. As I am sure you have noticed, many brides on here (myself included) try on dresses, even after we have ordered one! So this may help you later, when you may have second thoughts whilst waiting for your dress to arrive.
And I bet you, your mom just wants the Mom and Daughter, trying on dresses experience. I’m sure she is thrilled to go and “ohh” and “aww” at her beautiful daughter, trying on wedding dresses! It’s an important time for most Moms. It’s sweet… So go!!~ Try on some more! It will be fun, and it will also re-confirm if the one you love right now, is really the one, because no other dress, will compare!
Post # 12
probably your mom is just trying to be on the safe side.. since u still have so much time b4 the wedding.. u may see other gowns that u love even more than this db one, since u already arent that crazy abt the bead work as u admitted urself. i would wait a little to be sure.. b4 u end up with buyers remorse
Post # 13
I could see your mom wanting to experience of trying on dress on with you. I would simply explain to her that you love the dress and its the one you want and you are excited that it is under budget bc you are able to save her some money
Post # 14
i’m in the same boat – and i think moms just feel like there’s a certain amount of $ that’s appropriate to spend on a dress, and that the dollar amount directly corresponds to the quality of the dress. which, in many cases, is true. i said the words “David’s Bridal” to my mom once and i wish i could have taken a picture of the look of disgust on her face! but i’m not gonna lie – i’m in love with at least 10 dresses i’ve seen on their website! and part of me is tempted to go to one and just buy a dress for the hell of it! i also think that in our parents’ day, things were just made better (or handmade) so their standards may be a little higher.
in any case, back in april, i found a dres that i really want and absolutely love, but my mom isn’t crazy about it. it’s a Maggie Sottero (which btw, many of her dresses are in the $600-850 range), but she wants me to get something more high end – she thinks the fabric of the dress i want looks/feels cheap. i can’t fathom spending more than $1000 on a dress i will wear once (and only for 6-8 hours maybe??), but she still thinks its better to spend at least $1500 on a dress to get something “better.” i’m getting married next july as well, and we do still have time. i get wanting to get things wrapped up sooner rather than later, but at least humor your mom and try on some other dresses at non-DB shops and see where you get. i think at least allowing her to give her opininon is fair, esp since she is paying for it. if, at the end of the day, the DB dress still looks and feels the best, go for it! personally, i love it on you, but i say keep looking!
Post # 15
I totally agree that your mom probably wants to be more a part of this process, and I think you’ll ultimately enjoy having that experience with her.
I’m just going to put this out there. That dress is really pretty and flowy, but I think you might look even prettier in a ball gown; there are a lot out there with a similar top to the one your current empire waist choice has.
Post # 16
Thank you so much, ladies. I’ve read and have appreciated all your input. I’m trying on dresses with my mom when I see her, and I’m going to be happy and smiley and not fake about it. Thanks for talking me out of my little selfish bridezilla cocoon.