Post # 1
I’m feeling kind of awful right now because I found the engagement ring. The internet wasn’t working, so I was searching in the house for the box that the mondem was kept in. I opened this drawer and found the box. Underneath it was for a jewellery bag. I cound’t help myself, so I lookind in it and found the engagement ring. It is exactly what I wanted. Couple of concers though:
1) the bag that the box was held in was from a jewellery store that is no longer in our area. Hasn’t been in our area in 6 years. I know back in 2011 he did propose to his ex and I found a pamphlet in the bag showing March of 2011. Now this store is also located 40 mins away from us, which is where my boyfriend used to work a coupld of months ago. I’m freaking out a bit because I am worried it is the same ring that he got his ex.
When he came home yesterday, I felt awful so I told him I found it. He was a bit upset and said that now he has to change everything. He said that he thought I would not have found it in that drawer since I rarely go in that area. (I have been through that drawer before, but I can’t recall if it was there the bag. Anyways I told him why I thought the ring was from his ex as the bag is from a shop in our area that no longer exists and the pamphlet said 2011. He said that he would never give me a ring that was from his ex and that he did not even know this store was in our area in the first place. He also said that his ex kept the ring as well.
I’m having doubts and I feel like I’m being silly. The ring fits me perfectly as it simple and not too showy which is what I wanted.
Just having concerns if this ring was previously for his ex.
Just need some perspective.
Post # 2
I guessed when my fiance was going to propose and felt like I ruined the proposal– I cried and cried over it, but in the end, when he did propose even though I knew it was coming it was still a totally amazing experience that made me feel incredible. So don’t worry about having found it too much — I definitely wish I hadn’t stressed out so much!
As for whether the ring is from his ex, is there a possibility that he kept the bag and pamphlet from the old ring for some reason and put your new ring in it for safekeeping?
Post # 3
Why would you ruin his surprise by looking at the ring? Get some damn self-control.
As for if he used the ring to propose to his ex – he said he didn’t, it’s exactly what you want, and it’s your size. Seems to me like you are just looking for problems.
Post # 4
Trust me bee I know what that’s like! I actually picked my ring out as I needed a special size. It’s ok, you told him about it. Just try to forget that you found it and let him plan a proposal that will make forget about finding the ring first.
Post # 5
Just tell him you love the ring and you can’t wait till he proposes with that ring.
Post # 6
You need to relax, he said it’s not the same ring you just have to believe him.
Post # 7
I had a similar sentiment with my engagement ring. DH proposed to a fiance before he and I met. It never worked out. The ring he got was from an online retailer that offered 100% value on return for an upgrade. So, I knew that the stone was not the same– as I asked for a different shape stone than what I knew she had. However, DH chose (not sure if it was knowingly) the same setting for my stone as for hers. I knew because he had shown me her ring before he sent it back. He insisted that it was a differnet setting, but due to the item number on the paperwork being one that the retailer no longer carried, I just felt like I knew. Plus it was a stlye (channel set diamonds in band) that I really wasn’t fond of. He was a great about it and told me that we could get the stone reset.
Post # 8
If you can’t ask him about it and trust his answer and know he wouldn’t lie about regifting something as important as an engagement ring then you should not marry him.
Post # 9
Bee you are anxious and stressing. I have no doubt that you are in no way a carbon copy of his ex, and the ring is a design you love. Believe him. It is for you 🙂 Just tell him how much you loved it and that he doesn’t need to change anything about it.
Post # 10
Yes, you are being silly. You are also being disrespectful. You asked him a question, he answered it. You still felt the need to make a thread about it to get input from strangers.
It’s too bad that other thread with the woman who found the ring and acted a fool and ended up getting dumped isn’t around to give you some perspective.
Post # 11
If by pamphlet you mean receipt or insurance plan from 2011, that would be a huge red flag to me you were receiving a ring he purchased 6 years ago as there’s not a very plausible explanation otherwise.
If what you found dated 2011 is more innocuous in some fashion, then the bigger question is why don’t you trust your fiancé?
Post # 12
The pamphlet wasn’t a receipt. It was stating that value of the ring
Post # 13
Like an appraisal of the ring by the jeweler?
Post # 14
I actually would be very suspicious- if it’s in a bag with an appraisal then it’s very likely the same ring. why would he keep the appraisal around for a ring that he claims his ex kept? If his ex has the ring then either toss out the old appraisal or give it to her. No need to keep it around, hidden, for 6 years.
to me if sounds like he’s kept the old ring. Maybe he plans to upgrade it to a better ring for you? Maybe he plans to give it to you to see if you like it?
I was once engaged, and gave the ring back when we broke up. I heard through friends that he gave his wife my old ring (he was very cheap – so I’m not surprised).
I would be really conflicted – I’d want to trust him – but then again, it seems odd to keep an old appraisal.
Post # 15
Sometimes pamphlets have dates on them from when they were created, if its an actual pamphlet (like marketing for the company) it doesnt seem like a big deal.
Do you just not trust him in general? This seems to be a large freak out over something small, and if you don’t trust his words there might be some lingering trust issues over other things?