Le sigh. Please dear god at LEAST get yourself some therapy. If you decide to take ONE piece of advice from this thread, please let that be the one.
Also, for the record? You are not giving him a second chance. You are giving him a tenth, eleventh, twelfth, thirtieth chance. If you’re going to give him another chance, at least be honest with yourself that this is not the first time you’ve let him off the hook.
When he was messaging the girl innappropriately on Facebook and you confronted him about it and he told you he’d stop and then he went back to messaging her? CHANCE.
The second, third, fourth times that you said his relationship with this girl bothered you and he promised you he wouldn’t talk to her anymore and then proceeded to break his promise? THESE WERE ALL CHANCES THAT YOU GAVE HIM.
When you confronted him about her AGAIN and then he proceeded to IMMEDIATELY message her belittling comments about you? OH HEY, THERE’S ANOTHER CHANCE. In fact there are two betrayals here: him talking to her after he said he’d stop and him badmouthing you to her. TWO CHANCES.
When you tried to look at his phone while he was driving and he snatched it away from you without letting you look at what was inside? CHANCE.
When he took pictures of his penis and you confronted him about it and he lied to you that he was sending them to you? CHANCE.
When he sent YOUR picture to sketchy Brian without your permission, trying to engage him sexually? CHANCE except it’s SO MIND-BLOWINGLY HORRIFYING that he did this, I’m tempted to count this as you giving him five chances but since according to this list we’re already on the SEVENTH chance that you’ve given him, what does it really matter?
Him lying about the threesome nonsense? CHANCE-ITY CHANCE CHANCE CHANCE.
Etc. etc. etc.!!! Honey, this is just the tip of the iceburg! All you’ve done since you started this thread (and I’m sure, well before you started this thread!) is give this asshole chances! You’re a freaking chance machine! You are like the chance-a-palooza! Take a chance on YOURSELF for once and sign yourself up for therapy to try and find out why you don’t feel like you’re worthy of honesty, respect, and love. THAT is a chance worth taking.