Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I have been mentioning to him the last 2 years that I thought it was time for us to get married. Last week my good friend, that my boyfriend and I share, texted me out of the blue and asked what my ring size was. I was taken back and answered with my size and was afraid to ask why because I was pretty sure I knew why. Now, this week I asked my boyfriend to take some pictures of me and asked to see if they looked good so he handed me his phone and I scrolled though the couple of pictures and scrolled too far and saw a screenshot of an engagement ring. I quickly got rid of the application and gave his phone back to him like I didn’t see anything. Inside I was so excited but SO guilty. Fast forward later that day we go to his cousin’s for a party. We get home and he feel asleep in the car and I saw his cousin texted him asking if we got home safe. I grabbed his phone to reply that we made it home, but noticed that in is messages there was a group chat with my parents and I got a little curious. I looked in the chat and it was my boyfriend asking if he could go over last week beucase he wanted to talk to them about something. We have a trip next month to Alaska, so I am guessing it will be then. I feel pretty bad that I found all this stuff out because I always wanted to be surprised. Not sure what to do or think, help!!
Post # 2
Congrats!! So happy for you!
When I was ‘waiting’ I made sure my nails were painted a color I liked and my hair/makeup looked good every day. Just because I knew we’d probably take some photos and I wanted to be ready (and not like wearing my pajamas or something). I think it also helped me calm my nerves and ‘prepare’. Alaska sounds like a gorgeous place to get engaged!! Keep us updated!
I probably wouldn’t say anything to your bf since it does seem like he’s trying to prepare a surprise, although he’s not doing a very good job being stealthy about it! I never really thought the proposal should be a surprise anyway, more so the how/when/where than the proposal itself. So don’t feel bad that you found out!
Post # 3
Well that is exciting… and since you don’t know about all the details of the proposal it can still somewhat be a surprise…
I think the first 2 instances … the friend asking the size and you seeing the ring on his phone while looking at pictures he took of you were accidental knowledge, but the fact you looked at a group chat between him and your parents while he was sleeping seems a little intrusive and definately wasn’t a case of just “finding out” you purposely looked.. haha.. had you not of looked it might of ended up being more a suprise for you cause some people buy rings months before they propose… so now you will just have to sit back, relax, don’t go searching for more information and let it happen!
I am sure it will be lovely either way, and Alaska is so beautiful!
Post # 4
- Wedding: Agoura, California
That’s awesome! I like that he’s old-fashion and wants your parents to be a part of this special moment for you both. Congratulations!
Post # 5
No surprise is the trade off to snooping.
Post # 6
How he does it will still be a surprise, and you hopefully knew it was going to happen sooner or later. I would just do your best to try to help him surprise you from here on out – stop looking at his phone, for example – and be excited! I knew my husband was proposing, I picked out the ring. How and when he did it was still a surprise, and it was lovely.
Post # 7
“I feel pretty bad that I found all this stuff out because I always wanted to be surprised.”
If you wanted to be surprised, you probably wouldn’t have gone through his phone multiple times… Not sure why you’re trying to play coy lol. Just stop going through his phone from now on.
Post # 8
Putting YOUR snooping aside, the first red flag was when your mutual friend texted you and asked for your ring size. Honestly if your boyfriend really wanted it to be 100% surprise he wasn’t very savvy in asking your friend to ask you that!!! Honestly that’s kinda a dead giveaway right there!!!!
Post # 9
Tell him you know! That way the playing field is leveled and he can still find a way to truly suprise you and make it special.
Post # 10
I agree looing into the group chat was a little too far, but the picture was a complete accident. It was litteraly the next picture afer the ones he just took of me.
Post # 11
You don’t “feel bad” that you “found out.” You actively looked for the information. He is doing his best, so don’t do or say anything. HE didn’t ruin the surprise; you did.
Post # 13
Congratulations!! I would keep your nails done if that’s a thing you like and make sure you have some nice outfits you feel confident in.
Post # 14
Congratulations! I didn’t realize Alaska is even letting people in given Covid but stop looking at his phone so the rest of the proposal is a surprise. Did you have any say in the ring? What does it look like????
Post # 15
Exciting! To be fair, if my boyfriend had a group chat with my parents I would look too lol. You gotta stop looking now, and enjoy the excitement! Keep us posted 🙂